TRANS LIVES: My Journey Rolls On

Hello Everyone, my name is Karen Kendra Holmes and I am so excited to have my column and I welcome you all to “Trans Lives”. Within my column I will be talking about various topics that I want to share and yours if you care to share with other readers. I want to shed lots of faith, hope, and love that we give respect and earn the respect that we so deserve. From each article written I want you all to know that I have you each in my heart and you have a close friend in me. I just […]

First Impression

I’d like to introduce myself – my name is Art Solop. I am a custom clothier with Benchmark Clothiers. I am a professional clothier and wardrobe consultant to many successful people in the Baltimore / Washington, DC, area. I am a trained and certified master custom tailor by the Custom Tailors and Designers Association of America. I have developed and cultivated a great knowledge of style and fabrics that has allowed me to assist my clients in creating a wardrobe that is appropriate for any occasion: formal, business, or casual. Benchmark Clothiers is a full-service provider of men’s and ladies […]

Hagerstown Hopes ‘Love Grows’: Our Greatest Pride Yet

Hagerstown Pride was a huge success, and all of us at Hagerstown Hopes would like to thank everyone for their support! This was our biggest Pride to date. We estimate nearly 4,000 people braved the heat to visit, enjoy some amazing live entertainment, and spend time with our local LGBTQ community. Beacon House provided a fun, family-friendly Kid Zone, complete with games and arts and crafts projects. Butch Kelly and Chasity Vain, King and Queen of Hagerstown Pride, performed with local favorites and gave the crowd even more reasons to celebrate. Maya Montana, our headliner and former Miss Gay Maryland […]

It’s official: CDC says undetectable means not transmittable

Atlanta – “For HIV-positive MSM [men who have sex with men], taking ART [antiretroviral therapy] regularly greatly reduces the risk of HIV transmission to a negative partner. For persons who achieve and maintain viral suppression, there is effectively no risk of transmitting HIV to their HIV-negative sexual partner,” the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) now says. “This translates to an effectiveness estimate of 100% for taking ART regularly as prescribed and achieving and maintaining viral suppression. Effectiveness is lower, and there is a risk of transmitting HIV, when persons do not take ART as prescribed or stop taking […]

Divas by the Dozen

There aren’t a lot of musicians who have a backstory as fascinating as Jenny Lewis’s. A child actress who appeared in the camp/cult flick Troop Beverly Hills (alongside Shelly Long!) and the CBS series Brooklyn Bridge (alongside Marion Ross!), she went on to form the indie pop band Rilo Kiley. Her solo albums, in particular the amazing The Voyager (from 2014) and her new one On The Line (WB) put her in league with brilliant songwriters such as Aimee Mann. On The Line feels like an intentional companion piece to The Voyager and Lewis’s ongoing development as a songwriter of […]

Where & What is The Prostate?

The prostate is largely misunderstood and most of us take it for granted. September is prostate awareness month so I figured I would write a little about it ahead of time so you can properly prepare to celebrate this little nugget of fun. Where and what is the prostate? A healthy prostate is the size of a walnut and sits just below the bladder. When we look closely at where the prostate and the bladder meet we see that the tissue for the lower bladder seamlessly becomes the sphincter (valve) for the bladder and then seamlessly transitions into the tissue […]

“Sexual orientation” vs “gender identity” vs “fetish”

Dear Andre, I’m a happily married bisexual woman in my late 40s and I consider myself to be very open-minded. My husband has always identified as heterosexual (while being very supportive of my bisexuality and my need for visibility), however recently he confided in me that he enjoys dressing up in women’s clothing. I have to claim ignorance here; he says it’s not an identity thing, but I’m inclined to believe that cross-dressing is a steppingstone to coming out as queer. Am I just experiencing wishful thinking here, wanting my husband to be a part of the LGBTQ community with […]

Backyard Blues Part 2

Here’s more, continued from the July 19th issue, on the good, the bad, and the ugly of planning for a backyard wedding. More details, details, details… Parking is also a consideration. Wedding guests often arrive in pairs, so for that 75-guest wedding, about 35 cars would have to be put somewhere. Nothing upsets neighbors more than messing with their parking (or parking on their lawn!). Lack of parking is a deal-breaker, so right now, very early on in the planning process, is a really good time to have some friendly conversations with your neighbors about your intentions. If it rains […]

Is Anxiety the Same as Depression ?

Dear Dr. Eva, What’s the difference between depression and anxiety? I was told at different times that I have both. Is it just two names for the same thing? BT   Dear BT, Depression and anxiety are two different conditions and involve two different sets of problems, but it isn’t unusual for a person to have both conditions. Both depression and anxiety are disorders of mood, called “affective disorders” in medical language. For most people who have both depression and anxiety, one of the two conditions is more severe, which leads to diagnoses like “depression with features of anxiety,”or “anxiety […]

After Stonewall Reading List

Stonewall 50 celebrations may have come and gone, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t an abundance of good LGBTQ reading to be found to take you through the summer and into the fall. All titles are out now unless otherwise indicated Poetry pages – According to gay poet Aaron Smith In The Book of Daniel (University of Pittsburgh Press, 2019), he needs his Frank O’Hara and Denise Duhamel (among other poets), and he certainly gets them in this 47 poem collection that merges pop culture references and sensibility with his own personal and political struggles for an intoxicating concoction. […]