Advice from a sex therapist for couples in quarantine

Has this pandemic got you down? Has all the forced togetherness wrecked your sex life? For some couples, being quarantined with your partner for weeks on end might result in a lot more sex since you’re spending more time together. But for many couples, the added stresses of being cooped up together have dampened or wiped out their libidos. Diminished sexual activity can be a big loss, and it can be particularly painful during Pride month, when you would normally want to be out and about celebrating with others. If your relationship is suffering from a sexual drought, I’m here […]

Together or Separate

“Together or Separate,” is the question I get when I go out to eat with my wife. Before I came out waiters always just gave me the check. Many times, my wife paid and even when she gave them her credit card, they would still always hand it back to me. It seemed like it was an unwritten rule. The guy always gets the bill. However, since I’ve transitioned, we get the phrase, “Is that together or separate?” I think it’s one of the things that annoys my wife the most. I mean how do lesbian or gay couples feel […]

Will She Find It

The question I ask myself and other Transgender people ask too is will our spouse ever find our clothes that we are dressing in clothes of the opposite sex. Crossdressers even ask themselves that same question: “Will my spouse or partner find my clothes. The last thing we want is that our partners to think we are cheating on them when we are not. Things I will tell you in this article only relates to me. I am sure that some of you who are Transgender, or a Crossdresser can and will relate to what I am about to write. […]

Baltimore Protests in the Midst of George Floyds Death

From small rallies on Harford Road to much larger much-larger youth-led marches that traveled from the Convention Center, past the city jail and on to City Hall, hundreds of Baltimore City residents have joined together to peacefully protest and mourn the violent death of George Floyd in Minneapolis on May 25 as well as the countless other black lives taken by the hands of police brutality and misconduct. This incident was all to reminiscent of events in 2015 when Baltimore was roiled by weeks of tense protests after the April 19 death of Freddie Gray, a 25-year-old black man who […]

Out, loud and proud: an interview with SONiA

Baltimore native, out musician, activist, and even a bit of a mystic, Sonia Rutstein, better known to her fans and followers as SONiA of disappear fear, has a musical gift for everyone. The new 12-song CD compilation Love Out Loud (soniadisappearfear.com) collects some of her queerest and most uplifting songs resulting in the perfect soundtrack for your 2020 Pride observances. Drawing on selections spanning almost 25 years, including solo work as well as those recorded with her sister Cindy (from disappear fear’s early days), the album is as much a musical history lesson as it is a celebration of the […]

Bully. Coward. Victim. The Story of Roy Cohn comes to HBO

Just mention the name Roy Cohn and the general reaction from anyone even remotely familiar with the man is that he was pure evil. That specific word, ‘evil’, is the first descriptor people associate with him and that word comes up from pretty much everyone interviewed in the new HBO documentary Bully. Coward. Victim. The Story of Roy Cohn. June, Pride Month, may seem like an odd time to debut a film about a man who publicly denied his own sexuality but it manages to be engrossing and informative, especially how it relates to the man currently in the White […]

They Finally See US !

“WE HAVE RIGHTS!” My world exploded this morning. The three much-anticipated Supreme Court decisions have been rendered. The court held that Title VII protects gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people even if they were not in the mind of those who wrote the law. It was a six to three decision from a conservative Supreme Court. This is a watershed moment in the LGBT history. Not only because of this decision but because it has such broad reaching implications to our community. They finally see us! The Supreme Court heard arguments in three cases to determine if people can discriminate […]

Hope Rising

I know this is a scary time.  It’s scary because of the pandemic; the civil unrest; our rights being rolled back; and we’re waiting on SCOTUS. And yet something tells me this is the year things change – for all of us.  For every time one of us cried about what they called us.  For every time we buried someone we didn’t have to bury except for hatred and injustice.  For every time one of us cried for a god to step in and stop it – it’s finally happening.  People around the world are standing up, demanding justice, and […]

High Court rules LGBT workers are protected by federal law

Washington, D.C. – The US Supreme Court has ruled LGBTQ workers are protected under federal law. The justices’ decisions came in three cases and will impact millions of LGBTQ workers. Two of the cases concerned employees who said that they were discriminated against based upon their sexual orientation. The third case was about whether an employer could discriminate against workers because of their gender identity. Although the ruling is a great victory for LGBTQ communities, two of the three employees died before their claims of unlawful employment discrimination were vindicated.             The court held that the Civil Rights Act of […]

‘And You Thought Quarantine Was a Bitch’

A fabulous woman once said, “I’m one of those people you can tell ‘no’ a million different ways, and I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to figure out some way to get you to say ‘yes.’ People have always underestimated me. I have great stamina, great tenacity.” These words, once expressed by the iconic Morgan Fairchild, encapsulate the charisma of this legendary actress. From “Dallas” to “Flamingo Road” to “Paper Dolls” to “Falcon Crest,” Fairchild has always delighted audiences playing smart, manipulative women. The actress has once more stepped into the world of serialized storytelling, this time in […]