The craft of witchery So, it appears that COVID is over, and things are getting back to normal, whatever that means. For me life has changed, and somethings have remained the same. I am still happily married, and I can honestly say we are closer than we’ve ever been. I think that the people who are married and make it through transition wind up with a stronger and closer relationship. I also no longer take being married for granted. I really do love my wife; I just wish I would have known then what I know now. On the work […]
Could You Would You
I have a question for my transgender peeps. Could you, would you, dress as your old self if your spouse asked you to for an event? My wife got a new job and had an event where she was brought on board. Before you answer I think I need to add context. I understand my wife is on her own transition. That is, coming to terms of having a transgender spouse. She is a few years behind me and doing a great job. But at times it’s very hard on her and I remember how hard it is to be […]
Being an Ernest Hemmingway Fan
Being an Ernest Hemmingway fan, I asked a bartender named Jenna, kind of pictured above, if she knew what Death in the Afternoon was. She had been bartending for twenty years and had never heard of it. So, we did what every red blood American does, we googled it. Ernest Hemingway is known as much for his writing as for his drinking. Through his books and throughout his life, he championed cocktails like the Daiquiri and the Mojito, but nothing stirs the imagination quite like the Death in the Afternoon. Here’s to Hemingway for inspiring me to write today. BY […]
Transition and Marriage
Me and my wife have been married for over 30 years. All marriages take work; however, transgender marriages take ten times the work. That is just reality. Marriages are full of highs and lows. One of our greatest highs was when our children were born. Some of the lows can be really bad like a death of a child. Thank god we have not dealt with that. We all struggle with finding our way in the world. But as a team life is easier. For many in the transgender community, transition strains a marriage more than anything else. If you […]
Foxy Red
Foxxy Red was the name of the first character I played in a movie. About ten years ago I decided that an easy way to come out would be for me to play female parts in movies. I thought it was brilliant because people could get use to me as a female and not be threatened by me changing my gender. I saw an audition that was casting in New Orleans for a transgender woman. I went to the audition and hit it off really well with the director. I got the eight-page part along with a minute and a […]
Smile
A simple comment to a trans-female turned my thinking on its head. I told her to smile more. She was highly insulted, and I was taken aback. I certainly did not mean for it to be an insult. However, when I told a friend about it, he did a faceplant and said, “How could you not know this is a trigger.” The person I told to smile told me that males do that to dominate women. Which I still call BULLSHIT after thinking about this for a year plus. This is something I have never heard of at the time […]
How to state sanction murder of transgender youths
This title is Click bate, it can’t be true, right? Actually, under a new law, transgender youth in Alabama it is true. If passed and a doctor treats you with puberty-blockers, hormone therapy or surgery they will be committing a felony. Senators voted 23-4 to approve the measure, dubbed the Vulnerable Child Compassion and Protection Act, sponsored by Republican Senator Shay Shelnutt. The bill now heads to the state House of Representatives, which has already approved a companion bill. The two bills would make it a felony for medical professionals to treat transgender minors under the age of 19 with gender-affirming care. Violators […]
Hormones
I been on hormones for more than five years. Here are my experiences. Please remember that you should only follow your doctor’s recommendations and anything you read on the internet should be seen with a cautious eye. So, let’s start there, yes you need a doctor. You can get hormones off the internet, but you don’t have any clue of what you are really getting, and I think I got some weird shit in the beginning. If you cannot afford a doctor find a gender clinic, many offer free or reduced cost services. You really need a doctor. Also, many […]
Sophie VS Transmission
My youngest son, the one pictured here, had his car hit by a guy high on drugs. It was parked on side of the road in New Orleans and yes it was totaled. The guy hit it so hard it pushed the rear tire a foot forward. Also, the car was slammed into a tree crunching the front passenger side. So, I let him borrow the truck until we did something about his car. At the beginning of December, we swapped vehicles so I could pull my equipment trailer to set of a movie we were making. On the first […]
My Armor of Numbness
My Armor of Numbness had served me well over the years however, it almost broke me in two. TRIGGER WARNING: THE SUBJECT MATTER MAY BE DISTURBING TO SOME. So, what is my Armor of Numbness? It’s the shield that I wear that protects me for sad, unhappy, and terrifying events in my life. I think we all have some type of armor. Mine was especially thick for many reasons. The shield that covered my PTSD was especially thick because it had to be. Most of my PTSD came for first working on a firetruck, then secondly working on one of […]