Therapy Not For Me, You Say!

As the nation’s, indeed the world’s, attention has been on mental health, I want to focus on just what therapy/counseling is. I often hear people say: “I haven’t done this before; how does it go?” We do not ask this question if we have a toothache and have to go to the dentist, do we?

Holidays

Savor vs. Dread Approaching this time of the year, I hear a lot of moans and groans, and for sure, there can be a lot to complain about. The rush to make sure you get the right gifts; the agony of figuring out where you are going, by what means, and how much that will cost; that knot inside when you think of being with some family and friends who typically get into arguments; that uncle or aunt who gets drunk and brings up all kinds of past grievances and will not let go…. Yeah, I hear you. Those do […]

Chat vs. Work Mode

Social media can be criticized for many reasons, but let me acknowledge that it also has many upsides. I’ve made a number of acquantances with whom the paths would not have crossed due to physical distance and separation of knowledge spheres. I find new information and resources in that venue that enrich my life and work. Here is a tweet that gave me food for thought:

Comfort Zone? Ditch It!

If the highest aim of a captain were to preserve his ship, he would keep it in port forever. – Thomas Aquinas Think of times in your life when all was well – job, school, and love life, proceeding smoothly… For some, those are times when an almost-itch starts to develop. Seeking change, looking for some excitement. For others, a need to preserve this state, to savor the comfort and to stay in a homeostatic balance. There is no right or wrong in these approaches to life: We all have learned behaviors, personality styles, character, and preferred modes of behavior. […]