Smile

A simple comment to a trans-female turned my thinking on its head. I told her to smile more. She was highly insulted, and I was taken aback. I certainly did not mean for it to be an insult. However, when I told a friend about it, he did a faceplant and said, “How could you not know this is a trigger.” The person I told to smile told me that males do that to dominate women. Which I still call BULLSHIT after thinking about this for a year plus. This is something I have never heard of at the time […]

The Politics and Pitfalls of HIV Community Language

Kiara St James, Ben Plumley, Jose Romero, and Mark S. King Two broadcasts this week took a look at the words we use as people living with HIV – and the words others use to describe us. Those words can be hurtful or weaponized, even among ourselves. As a participant in both conversations, the question boils down to, “how willing are we to update our vocabularies to make the world a little safer for other people?” It might be as simple as naming your pronouns, which was one of the topics of a webinar hosted by the HIV Caucus this week. The […]

How to state sanction murder of transgender youths

This title is Click bate, it can’t be true, right? Actually, under a new law, transgender youth in Alabama it is true. If passed and a doctor treats you with puberty-blockers, hormone therapy or surgery they will be committing a felony. Senators voted 23-4 to approve the measure, dubbed the Vulnerable Child Compassion and Protection Act, sponsored by Republican Senator Shay Shelnutt. The bill now heads to the state House of Representatives, which has already approved a companion bill. The two bills would make it a felony for medical professionals to treat transgender minors under the age of 19 with gender-affirming care. Violators […]

Hormones

I been on hormones for more than five years. Here are my experiences. Please remember that you should only follow your doctor’s recommendations and anything you read on the internet should be seen with a cautious eye. So, let’s start there, yes you need a doctor. You can get hormones off the internet, but you don’t have any clue of what you are really getting, and I think I got some weird shit in the beginning. If you cannot afford a doctor find a gender clinic, many offer free or reduced cost services. You really need a doctor. Also, many […]

Should People Living with HIV Qualify for Early COVID Vaccination?

Karl Schmid, the plucky television broadcaster who revealed he is living with HIV in 2018, has been putting his notoriety and adorable Auusie accent to excellent use since his courageous announcement. Schmid has created Plus Life, a series of social media posts and interviews that work to “turn positive into a plus,” as his catchphrase pronounces. Recently, Schmid’s +Talk series turned its attention to the state of the COVID vaccine and whether or not people living with HIV should qualify for early vaccination. By bringing together the monumental HIV vaccine expert Jeff Taylor and myself, Schmid might have been secretly hoping for fireworks, since […]

Sophie VS Transmission

My youngest son, the one pictured here, had his car hit by a guy high on drugs. It was parked on side of the road in New Orleans and yes it was totaled. The guy hit it so hard it pushed the rear tire a foot forward. Also, the car was slammed into a tree crunching the front passenger side. So, I let him borrow the truck until we did something about his car. At the beginning of December, we swapped vehicles so I could pull my equipment trailer to set of a movie we were making. On the first […]

My Armor of Numbness

My Armor of Numbness had served me well over the years however, it almost broke me in two. TRIGGER WARNING: THE SUBJECT MATTER MAY BE DISTURBING TO SOME. So, what is my Armor of Numbness? It’s the shield that I wear that protects me for sad, unhappy, and terrifying events in my life. I think we all have some type of armor. Mine was especially thick for many reasons. The shield that covered my PTSD was especially thick because it had to be. Most of my PTSD came for first working on a firetruck, then secondly working on one of […]

From Actress to Actor

I have written a television series where the main charter transitions from male to female during the first and second season. The story is not about transitioning, it’s just the main character is transgender which complicates her journey just like it complicated my life. So, I decided to play a guy in another movie to a test whether I could do it for a year and a half in a series or not. I wrote a post on my Facebook about this. Post: So, tomorrow night I am to play a guy in a movie. It will be the first […]

2020 is Finally Over!

2020 is finally over, however at what cost? This past year has been a tumultuous year. Everything this past year has tested so many people. A number of people I knew died, not from COVID but other stuff. This past year is full of worry and lost for most.   I was ready for 2020 in January, or so I thought. I had my first major part in a series, and I was ready for my big follow up role. It takes at least 3 roles like that to get you known. February was right on track with a dozen […]

Sir Elton John and David Furnish Join Line-up Saluting HIV/AIDS Survivors

Sir Elton John and David Furnish have sent a special video message of support for long-term HIV/AIDS survivors, joining a growing list of celebrity guests for “Mark S. King’s 60th Birthday Bash” on December 16th. The event will also feature appearances by Olympian Greg Louganis, Broadway Hamilton star Javier Munoz, and dozens of long-term HIV/AIDS survivors who will be sharing personal greetings.  “I don’t know if I have ever had an experience where everyone simply said ‘yes,’” said birthday celebrant Mark S. King. “From the technical producers to the heads of national agencies to all of my fellow long-term survivors, people understood that joyful […]