Supreme Court

We had a major win this past year for LGBT rights, and this past weekend Donald Trump nominated Amy Coney Barrett for a lifetime appointment to the Supreme Court. Is this just part of the madness of 2020? How will this affect our community? The current decision on transgender rights was voted 6 to 3 so I don’t think it will change if a similar case is heard before the Supreme Court. However, that does not help our community with other cases and our other rights. Barring an act of god, Amy Coney Barret will probably spend decades on the […]

As Timothy Ray Brown Faces Death, a Great Love Endures

Tim Hoeffgen did a quick google search of his Scruff date as he headed over to meet him. Tim was living in Nevada in early 2013, and the guy he had been chatting with on the dating app looked a lot like the man who was on the cover of the LGBTQ newspaper in Las Vegas that week. When the door opened, Tim realized his hunch was correct. Greeting him was Timothy Ray Brown, the first man in history cured of HIV and the intense focus of scientific and public fascination around the world.  “I was charmed immediately by his personality,” Tim […]

What Older Adults are Doing to Promote Racial Justice

By Dr. Jennifer Jimenez Maraña, Director of Diversity and Inclusion at Broadmead In his video series “Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man,” Emmanuel Acho reads a letter from a White woman who grew up in the 1940s. She wrote that racism was embedded in her experience growing up, but now she has been listening and is still learning. She asked that Acho and others “not give up” on people like her, adding, “I’m awake now and determined to wake others up.” When I shared the video with a group of residents I work with at Broadmead, a life plan community […]

The Evolution of Coming Out

When someone in the transgender community comes out it is usually fought with stress and emotion that can range all over the place. My journey was typical of many transgender people’s story. First, I didn’t want to admit I was transgender. Being such was wrought with guilt and shame beyond most people’s comprehensions, even mine. I got to the point that I considered death as a viable option instead of simply being me. I went through six different stages in my journey. Many of these happened in random orders and even some happened at the same time. It’s not like […]

Prejudice from the Older Generation

The picture on the left is me at my office before coming out. The picture on the right is during a play where I played a doctor, but it’s one of the few pictures of me as a doctor. This past year and a half has been very eventful. When I first went full time at my office, I think I got ma’am about 30% of the time. Anyway, I had an elderly gentleman come in. I think I was full time maybe two weeks. He asked for the doctor, I told him I was the doctor. He looked at […]

COVID-19? Blame the Fire Island Gays

The judgment of the social media gods, decreed Monday morning, was withering and furious: the buff gay men on the Fire Island beach over the holiday weekend were nothing less than suicide bombers. Virtuous gays everywhere watched the video posts of these gurls gone wild and gagged on their signature Hamilton cocktails. Long-term HIV survivors rushed to their keyboards to elbow themselves into the outrage, aghast at our short memories of the dangerous AIDS crisis years which, to be fair, happened before most of this set of revelers were born. Let’s all inhale a deep, healing breath, shall we? Now […]

What is Passing?

What is passing? It’s that thing that puts dread into any transgender person’s persona. Especially people like me who have gender dysphoria about their looks. I was offered a great two-day gig. However, I had to wear guy clothes for the gig because that’s all I had in my closet. I asked to wear a dress but was told that is not what people wear doing that job. And to be honest it would be inappropriate for a cameraperson at a big event where you are supposed to be ninja like, very unseen. So, I sucked it up and downed […]

BLM from a Trans Angle

Our world is in chaos. Currently we have rioting and civil unrest in the streets. There is a narrative that has fractured our communities and our nation. This has given the rise to a movement called Black Lives Matter. Since I cannot do justice to this community I reached out to a friend for help. She wants to help both our community and the Black Lives Matter community. I also felt it would be appropriate that she speak on this because she is a black transgender woman. Let me tell you a little about Teryl Lynn Foxx. We met this […]

Together or Separate

“Together or Separate,” is the question I get when I go out to eat with my wife. Before I came out waiters always just gave me the check. Many times, my wife paid and even when she gave them her credit card, they would still always hand it back to me. It seemed like it was an unwritten rule. The guy always gets the bill. However, since I’ve transitioned, we get the phrase, “Is that together or separate?” I think it’s one of the things that annoys my wife the most. I mean how do lesbian or gay couples feel […]

Alanah Nichole: Looking Left and Right at The Intersections

As a toddler, both non-disabled and disabled folks learn to cross the street. Our guardians implore a core lesson in looking both ways at intersections whether we are using our legs, canes, or wheels. If afforded the privilege, many of us pursue getting our driver’s license sometime in our adolescence. Before we ever hit the road we do donuts in parking lots and practice parking in between cones as not to hit the real cars when we get on the road in our hand-me-down clunker cars. We all keep that core lesson to look both ways at intersections in our […]