Help for Your Mental Health

By Laura Webb, VP and Chief Nursing Officer COVID-19 has cut us adrift in a sea of uncertainty: Will I have a job six months from now? Will I or my loved ones get sick? How should I educate my kids? These incessant worries can do a number on our mental health. In fact, The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) published a report in August 2020 that found during the pandemic, U.S. adults reported considerably elevated rates of symptoms consistent with mental health conditions. Overall, 40% of respondents reported at least one mental health concern or condition, such […]

With Darkness Growing All Around, Resources for Coping with LGBT Stress

“Spooky Season” has arrived and the beautiful autumn finds us all…STRESSED. Truly, this has been one of the most stressful periods in many of our living memories. The pandemic has been a game-changer, even for those who have not suffered COVID-19 illness or the loss of a loved one. Tragically, many of us have lost someone, often under heartbreaking circumstances where we didn’t get the chance to say goodbye. Every one of us who survives 2020 will have scars to show for the remainder of our lives. The adjustments our culture has made are remarkable. But they’re also causing us […]

You, me, and ’Rona

As we all adjust to living with a deadly and most importantly, invisible virus, what happens between us, our partners, family, friends, neighbors and coworkers? How do we negotiate the emotional impact of less or no physical contact and the social lack of connections as we used to have? Human beings are social animals. Yes, I know, there are those who are introverts and really prefer their own company and maybe even shun being around others. But even they, seek the comfort of another individual at different times, when their emotional needs peak in crisis situations. So how do we […]

On National Coming Out Day, Come Out For What is Right and Just

October is an important month for LGBTQ people. National LGBT History Month gives us a wonderful opportunity to reflect on the evolution of our equality movement. It’s also National Bullying Prevention Month — in fact, we celebrate Spirit Day on October 15th to increase awareness of the damage done to LGBTQ youth through bullying. One of our most beloved LGBTQ holidays across the year is celebrated on October 11th: National Coming Out Day. When National Coming Out Day (NCOD) was established back in 1988, there were very few well-known LGBTQ Americans. Secrecy was considered an essential protection for many, and yet there was a strong political push to bring LGBTQ […]

Why and how you must vote – even if you don’t love the choices

“No right is more precious in a free country than that of having a voice in the election of those who make the laws under which, as good citizens, we must live. Other rights, even the most basic, are illusory if the right to vote is undermined.”  Supreme Court Justice Hugo Black; majority opinion in Wesberry v. Sanders, (1964) IF YOU HAVE NOT REGISTERED TO VOTE: It’s not too late. Do it now! See the website below.  HOW TO VOTE: Go to  https://www.washingtonpost.com/elections/2020/how-to-vote/ or search for “Washington Post how to vote” to get a complete, state-specific guide to voting, including […]

What is Normal Anyway

No doubt the world is changing quickly these days for all of us!  We are being asked to, wear a mask, wash our hands, social distance at least 6 feet, and for those of us who have been lucky enough to keep our job, a lot of us are being asked to work from home which then means working while the kids are in virtual class and/or our partner(s) are home working too.  With so many changes happening so quickly it is easy to lose track of what normal feels like and in the confusion we can lose sight of […]

What do ‘asexual’ and ‘genderfluid’ mean?

Dear Dr. Eva, ​As one long-time member and observer of the GLBT community to another, I’d like to know how you understand the terms “genderfluid” and “agender.”  The term “genderqueer” has been  around a few years now, and my understanding is that it means something like, ‘engaging in behavior typically associated with the gender opposite to the one you were assigned, but not necessarily identifying with the opposite gender.’  I’m less sure what ‘genderfluid’ means. I realize it has nothing to do with genital fluids. And what is ‘agender’- the same as asexual, or something else? ​​Old Timer Dear Old […]

Individualism And Social Responsibility

Through the years leading up to marriage equality, and even with other individual rights struggles, I wondered about the cognitive process of balancing individual wishes, wants and rights against the needs and rights of coupledom, partnerships and the society writ large. Were these two separate ways of thinking that were mutually exclusive? How would one balance these against each other? The reality is that when you are a single adult, you call the shots for your own life. The minute you enter a relationship, even a friendship, you give up some level of power in the interest of the newly […]

Do you pee in Morse Code??!?

September is prostate awareness month which is why I decided to focus on it for a moment. Most people have some level of awareness of prostate cancer, so I will start there.  It has a very high survival rate in part because men get checked regularly after the age of 50 or 55, depending on the comfort of your PCP, other health risks and family history.  I must take a moment to remind all of my trans women friends that regular prostate checks apply to you too, because the prostate is not removed during a vaginoplasty.   The prostate starts out […]

Things to Look for When Buying a Retirement Home

Retirees enjoy the freedom to move wherever they desire without a job or young family tying them down to their current location. Retirees often move during retirement, with a decent portion moving out of state. However, there are many things to consider before you book those movers and sell your house. Before selecting your dream retirement home, consider some of these things to help save you time and money down the line. Your Budget:Regardless of age, amenities play an important part in choosing a new home. Make a shortlist of what you need and want. Think about fitness, community activities, proximity, and maintenance. […]