The Rainbow-Lit White House Made America Greater

Michelle Obama is African-American, straight, a graduate of Princeton University and Harvard Law, economically well off, a former First Lady, and gorgeously tall. It just so happens that I am none of these things. In fact, we could not be more different. And yet, when the Supreme Court ruled that I was free to legally marry in any state in America, Michelle Obama was lit throughout with excitement and joy. On that hot June night in 2015 when the Supreme Court came down with the decision in Washington legalizing gay marriage all over this country, it was a thrilling night […]

Blowing His Own…Jazz trumpeter Chris Botti Nov. 23rd to 25th

“I’ve always loved the challenge of playing the trumpet,” says Grammy Award-winning jazz trumpeter Chris Botti. Over the past three decades, Botti has become the largest-selling American instrumental artist with four number one jazz albums and has performed with musical legends like Barbara Streisand, Frank Sinatra, Josh Groban, Lady Gaga, and others. On November 23rd to 25th, he will return to the Joseph Meyerhoff Symphony Hall as part of the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra’s SuperPops series. Botti’s love for the trumpet is obvious to anyone who has listened to his albums or performances, but he is quick to mention the obstacles […]


I think my favorite season is fall. The weather gets cooler. The outdoor chores wind down. The kids are back in their normal schedule. There are leaves to play in. This fall season even included a significant snowfall. All around it’s a great time of year. Cassa loves the snow. I don’t think she remembers much of it from last year. She just turned three last week, after all. But, when it snowed at our house, Cassa headed out, bundled up to look like the Michelin Man. She and one of our teen boys ran around, threw snowballs, built a […]

Ten Not-So-Complicated Steps……for planning your wedding

If you’re getting married in 2019 or 2020, there’s a one in three chance that you’re going to get engaged in the next six weeks. How exciting! Planning your wedding can be just as exciting as your engagement, full of joy and wonder and discovery. The key to successful wedding planning is to be thoughtful, thorough, and loving. That’s it! I’m going to walk you through a deliberate, step-by-step process that will help you avoid lots of potential stress and heartache. Here’s how to do it: (Spoiler alert! This is part one of two.) Step 1 – Think about the […]

Less Sex?

Have you seen the recent studies and statistics about teenagers and young adults having less sex? Given the options of birth control, greater freedom of expression of sexuality, and even low pregnancy and STD rates, not to mention all the dating and hookup sites, shouldn’t we be seeing an increase in sex? Young adults are reported to have fewer partners than the two generations before. Teenager abstinence seems to be rampant along with less sex by Gen Xers and Baby Boomers. It is true that fewer people are marrying and those who do, marry later. Many couples cohabitate without involving […]

Juggling Polyamory

Dear Andre,   I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for several years and am in committed, loving relationships with three partners. Recently, two of my partners have approached me – independent of one another – to express feeling neglected. They have concerns about how I manage my time and told me that their time with me often feels either rushed or obligatory, which certainly isn’t my intention. They also want me to work on how and when I communicate my availability to them. How can I successfully delegate time to all of my partners in a way that makes them feel […]

This Drag Queen Will Steal Your Heart…

The Kinsey Sicks have been at this a long time. The a cappella singing group of gay men in drag are celebrating 25 years of performing shows that are equal parts camp comedy and very of-the-moment political humor. Benjamin Schatz is an original member of the group, appearing as his drag alter ego Rachel, a character with a penchant for putdowns and a lust for the spotlight. But there’s political humor and then there is true, mortal heartbreak. Benjamin, who writes much of the shows and lyrics, had something important to say, something that had weighed on his mind for many years. He […]

When Do You Leave an Argument?

So if you are discussing and then arguing about an issue or a conflict, what is your usual modus operandi? Do you get quiet and withdraw? Do you engage fully, and the discourse goes on for a while before the other party leaves? Do you follow each other from one room to another still angry? Or do you call a timeout and drop it altogether? It is impossible to be alive and not to have disagreements and conflicts with other people, especially with those we care about. So how we handle those make a difference in the quality of our […]

‘Queen of Mean’ Becomes ‘Queen of Lean’ at Center Stage

Lisa Lampanelli returns to Baltimore’s Center Stage this month with her upcoming performance of Lisa Lampanelli’s Losin’ It. Performing on Saturday, November 17th at 8 pm, the show shines an intimate but hilarious light on the universal problems of weight and body image. Inspired to put the show together by going through her own journey with these issues, Lampanelli decided that storytelling was the perfect way to convey feelings and sense of humor about the subjects. Speaking exclusively to Baltimore OUTloud, Lampanelli candidly shared how her recent retirement from stand-up comedy has helped the former Queen of Mean become the […]

Baltimore Native Comes Home for Fiddler on the Roof

For Baltimore-native Eric Berey, returning to Charm City this November means more than just visiting his hometown roots. Berey, an ensemble member in the North American national tour of Fiddler on the Roof, is excited to bring his classic musical background to Baltimore’s Hippodrome Theatre. Running from November 13th to 18th Fiddler on the Roof tells the story of Tevye, the father of five daughters, and his attempts to maintain his Jewish religious and cultural traditions as outside influences encroach upon on his family members’ lives. “Baltimore audiences need to come see this show,” began Berey. “It’s a beautiful story […]