Is Anxiety the Same as Depression ?

Dear Dr. Eva, What’s the difference between depression and anxiety? I was told at different times that I have both. Is it just two names for the same thing? BT   Dear BT, Depression and anxiety are two different conditions and involve two different sets of problems, but it isn’t unusual for a person to have both conditions. Both depression and anxiety are disorders of mood, called “affective disorders” in medical language. For most people who have both depression and anxiety, one of the two conditions is more severe, which leads to diagnoses like “depression with features of anxiety,”or “anxiety […]

After Stonewall Reading List

Stonewall 50 celebrations may have come and gone, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t an abundance of good LGBTQ reading to be found to take you through the summer and into the fall. All titles are out now unless otherwise indicated Poetry pages – According to gay poet Aaron Smith In The Book of Daniel (University of Pittsburgh Press, 2019), he needs his Frank O’Hara and Denise Duhamel (among other poets), and he certainly gets them in this 47 poem collection that merges pop culture references and sensibility with his own personal and political struggles for an intoxicating concoction. […]

Hagerstown Hopes Presents Hagerstown Pride 2019!

Happy Pride from all of us at Hagerstown Hopes! As you may know, 2019 commemorates the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. It was the Stonewall Riots that began our community’s long journey to where we are today. Along the way we fought, and won, battles for equality and civil rights. Every member of our community has a different relationship to these events. Some were pioneers, leading the movement; others were born into a more progressive, accepting world created by those who came before them. It is our history and culture that connects us, and that’s cause for Pride and […]

Why Are We Like This?

My young friend came out to his parents today. It was his own Independence Day. He sat them down and told them in no uncertain terms. His mother cried. His dad was silent. He was scared. That scenario plays out in so many households. It’s a shame that in this day and time we have to worry about what people think about our sexuality. It’s a shame that our young people still think they need to live in a closet. It’s a worse shame that there are some places where closets still keep people safe. Our children should be able […]

Karen Kendra Holmes: My Journey

The question you may be asking is “Who is Karen Kendra Holmes?” To start things off, I am an advocate for the transgender community. But let me take you back to the time before I became an advocate for my fellow sisters and brothers in the community. I recall as early as 13 years of age when I started dressing in clothes designed for women. I wasn’t sure why or when I decided to do that, but I felt right within myself to wear women’s clothing and I was more comfortable with myself when I did. For years I purchased […]

Is Ptown’s Joe Coffee the Jolt Your Dating Life Needs?

Glenn Siegmund is a Webster, Massachusetts, native and former CIO and IT professional with over 30 years of experience. Why on earth has he recently acquired Joe Coffee in Provincetown with longtime friends Mark Shaw and Peter McBrien? Is this an elaborate ploy to improve his dating prospects or are they teaming up to bring the most addictive year-round coffee experience to the Cape? Let’s bother him with delightful questions.  Kevin: Do you recall your first queer experience with coffee? Glenn: I was a huge Janet Jackson fan. She was touting the benefits of coffee enemas and their ability to […]

Backyard Blues

Caroline Hax, who writes an advice column for the Washington Post, recently answered a question from a bride who wanted to have a “small backyard wedding with about 75 guests” in her grandmother’s backyard. The bride thought that such a gathering was no big deal, which is to say that she said that all they would need t Two o do is “get some chairs and everything will work out.” Can you see where this is going? As it happened, the bride’s family was far more aware of what a wedding for 75 guests requires, as well as the impact […]

Things Are Heating Up!

One would think that the leather community takes a break in the summertime. After all, heat and cowhide do not seem like the best combination. For the many of us who are dedicated members of the leather community the summer months are filled with just as many events as during any other time of the year. In fact, in the Mid-Atlantic area the leather calendar is just getting heated up! How do you turn a random Wednesday into something special? You hang out with the DC Boys of Leather. Join them for happy hour on Wednesday, July 10th from 6 […]

Putting a Face to Trump’s Transgender Military Ban

People fear the unknown. Ignorance is born out of fear. A few years ago, many people who were apposed to gay rights would argue that no one they knew was gay. They would feel that they had never met a gay person and that no one in their family was gay. Over the last few years, gays and lesbians have made great strides in visibility with many popular TV shows featuring gay characters and openly gay and lesbian persons becoming leaders in their communities. We now even have an openly gay man running for president of the US. The fight […]

IML Winner Jack Thompson

… on sex, HIV, and facing transphobia Jack Thompson, who just won the 2019 International Mr. Leather (IML), is a lot. And he carries it well. Jack is biracial. He’s gay. He’s transgender. He’s extremely kinky, depending on what scale you use to measure such things. Jack is also utterly transparent about all that he is, to a disarming degree. His speech at the IML competition (“You are enough.”) laid bare all of his identities and became an instant viral meme. Over breakfast at his favorite diner in his newly adopted home city of Baltimore, Jack discussed coming out (as many things), sex, […]