Risking Love

Life is full of risks. This last year has made it even more clear that, to maintain and protect ourselves, we have to weigh in on just which level of risk we can afford. That level may vary in different contexts as well. One may not volunteer to lead a group (low emotional risk) but go paragliding (high physical risk). In relationships, the risk of rejection and sometimes the risk of acceptance may guide behavior. None of us likes rejection. But risk of acceptance? That if you reach out, there may indeed be a reciprocal interest in you? What makes […]

A Gift to Those You Love

As 2020 draws to a merciful close, the season of giving that typically rounds out the year promises to be different. The festive gatherings we usually enjoy will be muted, if they happen at all. Video calls may substitute for the physical embrace of family and friends. And the exchange of gifts we all look forward to will likely take place through the likes of UPS rather than in person. With so much less to plan for this year, many people are busying themselves by tackling overdue tasks. Homes are being spruced up, important papers are being organized, and missing […]

Real Estate Won’t be “Normal” this Winter

Surprised?   Nothing about 2020 has been normal, so why should the real estate market be any different as we head into pandemic winter? Everything you think you know about how the housing market works has been turned upside down.   In most other years, winter has been a good time to be a buyer. Listings that come on the market are usually greeted with lower buyer demand, while homes that remain on the market have the stigma of not having been snapped up during the busy fall season. Inventory customarily rises a bit because of this decreased demand. Interest […]

Hope Does Survive, If You Let It

There are so many invisible arrows that we get to be a target for on a daily basis. There are real ones, aimed at us by those we are close to. Your family or your loved ones are not approving of your lifestyle; a boss is not happy with your performance; your neighbor dumps a pile of sand next to your fence; someone cuts you off as you try to merge on the highway…We all receive these, but you may have noticed that some people just shrug them off and others brood over them for days. What makes for the […]

Long-Term Care Options

November is long-term care awareness month, so we’re revisiting this challenging subject.  The national average cost for a private room in a nursing care facility costs over $102,000 per year. Depending on the level of your assets and income, you may elect to self-insure, spend down your assets and rely on Medicaid, or purchase long-term care insurance.  Traditional long-term care insurance benefits seem to be decreasing while the cost of coverage increases. Often people with more limited assets and income may rely on Medicaid to cover their long-term care expenses. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, it […]

Stress and the Holidays

Yeah!!!!  The holidays are here!  Oh Shit!!!!  The Holidays are here!   I will say it again, this year has been a challenge for all of us!  I have yet to see anyone skipping down the road singing “Zippidy Doo Da” this year, except maybe in January.    Regardless of your political views, health views, etc… we have all had more than our fair share of challenges and a lot of us are looking forward to the holidays but they too come with a certain level of concern due to uncertainty.  Some of us look forward to seeing friends and families while […]

Food and Mood

By Silvia Solano, MS, RDN, Nutrition Care Coordinator at The Center for Eating Disorders at Sheppard Pratt Have you heard the phrase, “You are what you eat?” Obviously, the proverbial saying does not mean we are doomed to turn into what we eat. It is simply the notion that to have a healthy functioning body, you need to fill it with all the nutrients it needs. In fact, the nutrients you consume are literally the building blocks that your body’s complex structure of cells, tissues, organs and systems needs to regenerate every day. The same truth applies to your mind. […]

Intergenerational Conversations with the Stonewall Generation

The experiences of the Stonewall generation will be at the center of the LGBT Health Resource Center’s next virtual ElderPRIDE Power Hour, coming up this Thursday, December 10, from 1 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. The session will be presented by author Jane Fleishman, PhD, MEd, MS; for information on how to join, visit www.chasebrexton.org/PowerHourDec2020. We asked Jane a few questions about her work around elder sexuality and the importance of LGBT elders sharing their stories and experiences. In your experience, what is the most common misconception about this time in our community’s history? In addition to my work as a […]

Reflecting on the Election, Preparing for Trans Day of Remembrance

We have made it through a high-stakes, and deeply polarized election season. Even folks who don’t engage in electoral politics much have felt the building tension among our communities. Our President and Vice President elect have been projected and announced, and even though there may be ongoing vote counting process and legal wrangling, change appears to be just around the corner. There were many big wins for representation, most noticeably, a glass ceiling has shattered with the selection, campaign, and victory of Vice President elect, Senator Kamala Harris. Election season also brought exciting wins for LGBTQ candidates nationwide. Delaware elected Sarah McBride as state […]

Love, Pandemic Style

You may have seen the November 19 “The Rachel Maddow Show” on MSNBC where the host had an emotional presentation on her partner’s COVID illness. Since then, especially with the Thanksgiving Holiday, there have been many accounts of how people handle when a partner, spouse or a family member gets infected. The toll it takes when you can’t see or be with those you love when they are in distress is huge, let alone knowing they may be dying with no one to hold their hand. It is an unimaginable time when a partner has a serious or terminal illness, […]