New HIV Treatment

Dear Dr. Eva, I read that there’s a new HIV medicine out. How different is it from other HIV medicines? Should I ask my doctor if I can switch? Treatment Experienced Dear TE, A new HIV medicine called fostemsavir (brand name Rukobia) was approved early last month (July 2020).  Fostemsavir is an entry inhibitor, which means it prevents the HIV virus from getting inside the specialized white blood cells (T cells) that HIV infects. Over time, T cells that have already been infected die off and are replaced.  When an entry inhibitor is taken, the HIV virus cannot get inside […]

Reinventing Relationships

Whether you are in an established relationship, wanting to start one, or early on in one, in these last several months with the pandemic, we have all been impacted and have had to adjust, adapt, negotiate, re-negotiate or even end our connections. Human nature thrives on social contact. Even if you may be an introvert, you still need that soul-feeding emotional bond with other human beings, maybe not too many, but still. Sometimes it is a family connection; other times it is a friend or a romantic partner. In the words of the 17th century English poet, John Donne, “no […]

Who’s Driving this Bus Anyway?

How much are you in control of your day? The decisions you made earlier today? Do you remember getting dressed this morning? Watching TV, catching up on the news, checking email? Was it pretty much the same routine as yesterday? Think about how you got dressed this morning. What went on first? Was it shirt, socks, or underwear first? Try reversing the order one day and see how awkward it feels. See how much longer it takes to get dressed. Do you brush your teeth before or after getting dressed? Where does showering fit into the routine? How long have […]

Healing Resources for Black Queer and Trans Communities

In this time of great change, uncertainty, and hope, we at the LGBT Health Resource Center wanted to offer a list of resources to support black members of our communities who may be in need of healing, support, therapy, and self-care. Our Center is here for you as well – visit Resourcecenter.lgbt to learn more. Asterisked items are explicitly LGBTQ / Same Gender Loving-focused services.   Healing Yoga with Jessamyn Stanley (Jessamynstanley.com) – Jessamyn Stanley is a black queer fat femme yoga teacher and writer who works to make the practice accessible to all bodies and people of all means. […]

MENTAL HEALTH MOMENT – You Are So Beautiful

By Dr. Terri Griffith What do you like about your body? As the clinical coordinator for Sheppard Pratt’s Center for Eating Disorders, that’s a question I often ask my patients to begin the process of helping them shift the narrative they tell themselves about their own bodies. For some patients, it might be difficult to acknowledge something they like about their bodies. So sometimes the question has to be changed to, “What are you okay with about your body” or even “What can you tolerate about your body?” Go ahead and reflect on your own body image and think about […]

Living with Ambiguity

In the last 3 months, we have read, heard, viewed or talked with friends, family, coworkers, scientists, officials and others, and have been exposed all kinds of views, opinions, facts and counter facts. The human brain seeks comfort in consistency and at least a sense of temporary certainty. Alas, we don’t have that. How do you deal with those in your life when it comes to restrictions regarding the coronavirus? Masks, face coverings, social distancing, and other preventive measures have become not only political, but unfortunately and regrettably, reflective of one’s strength of character or personality, or one’s concepts of […]

Home HIV Tests: Just as Good?

Dear Dr. Eva, What do you think about home HIV tests? Are they as accurate as the ones done in labs? Are they as accurate as the free ones you can get at bars and festivals? Nervous   Dear Nervous, About 1.3 million people in the United States are infected with HIV. About one in seven (15%) don’t know they are infected. People who know they have HIV often take steps to protect others, while those who don’t know their status often do not. Forty percent of new HIV cases are transmitted by the 15% of HIV positive people who […]

The Knack!

Have you ever had this happen to you? You are on a zoom call with friends of yours, you have some wine (or if you are a real rebel, you actually go to their house! You actually sit on their sofa and pet their pussy cat while casually/discretely lifting your N-95 mask to sip your chardonnay or nibble on a cracker or some cheese)….then it happens….a joke, a funny moment or some antics happen and then the dreaded guffaw and laughter ensues! You feel it coming but there is nothing you can do! I am not talking about the bursts […]

Advice from a sex therapist for couples in quarantine

Has this pandemic got you down? Has all the forced togetherness wrecked your sex life? For some couples, being quarantined with your partner for weeks on end might result in a lot more sex since you’re spending more time together. But for many couples, the added stresses of being cooped up together have dampened or wiped out their libidos. Diminished sexual activity can be a big loss, and it can be particularly painful during Pride month, when you would normally want to be out and about celebrating with others. If your relationship is suffering from a sexual drought, I’m here […]

Riding the News Roller Coaster, and Finding Our Place in the Fight

Once again, the news cycle has us on a roller coaster ride of extreme emotions. Late last week, the Trump administration dismantled the LGBT nondiscrimination provisions rule of the Affordable Care Act. The announcement of this action was callously made on the anniversary of the PULSE massacre and during a pandemic. On Monday, the Supreme Court ruled that discrimination against LGBT people is covered under the sex discrimination provisions of Title VII. This is a landmark ruling, a sea change. These two announcements contradict each other in every way. The pendulum swing is extreme and confusing. All of this comes […]