Win-Win? … Or win-lose?

We live in a culture – and indeed in a world – where the attitude is that if I win, you lose, or if you win, I am condemned to lose. And of course, losing has a negative connotation. How does that work in a relationship? Or even in any human interaction? Do you look to see who is right? Is it more important to you to be right at the expense of your connection to another person? I come upon many people who say that their partners never admit to being wrong, or never apologize, taking responsibility for their […]

Is Anxiety the Same as Depression ?

Dear Dr. Eva, What’s the difference between depression and anxiety? I was told at different times that I have both. Is it just two names for the same thing? BT   Dear BT, Depression and anxiety are two different conditions and involve two different sets of problems, but it isn’t unusual for a person to have both conditions. Both depression and anxiety are disorders of mood, called “affective disorders” in medical language. For most people who have both depression and anxiety, one of the two conditions is more severe, which leads to diagnoses like “depression with features of anxiety,”or “anxiety […]

EMG and Biofeedback

One of the hidden treasures of a pelvic physical therapist is the use of ElectroMyoGraphy (EMG) The first question to answer is: what is it? Electromyography (also known as EMG) is a way in which I can look at the electrical activity of your muscles. We have heard of an EEG (ElectroEncephaloGram), which reads the wave patterns of the brain and nerve conduction studies in which they look at the electrical activity of the nerves. This is similar in that we are looking at electrical activity but EMG is focusing on your muscles. So, what? Big deal! What does that […]

Sexual Benefits of Kegel Exercises

If you’ve heard of Kegel exercises, you might think that their positive effects are limited to women, particularly following childbirth. But Kegel exercises can improve anyone’s sexual function, improve bladder and bowel health, and even help with back pain! These benefits will be detailed at an upcoming Lunch & Learn workshop hosted by the LGBT Health Resource Center on Thursday, July 11th from noon to 1:30 pm. We asked Charles Dudley, a Baltimore-based personal trainer and the session’s presenter, to share a bit more about Kegel exercises and their positive benefits. How can Kegels affect sexual function? Kegels are exercises […]

From the Depths

In this edition of “Fit for Life,” Joshua H. Buchbinder turns over the podium to a woman who wishes to remain anonymous Most 16-year-old kids look forward to their driver’s license, first job, and becoming an upperclassman. I was faced with the destruction and agony of being a heavy drinker and drug user. Hopeless, defeated, and shattered I disappointed my family and teachers. My parents were divorced but co-existed amicably, and I had grown up in a faith-based, alcohol-free home. At 15, the few months of summer freedom exposed me to “typical teenager experimenting” – cigarettes, weed, alcohol, and sex. […]

On Your Terms

Dear Andre,  I’m a trans femme punk girl in her mid-twenties and I desperately need some advice. I came out as trans at home when I was 17 and my parents promptly kicked me out of the house. After being homeless for over a year I finally found work, a room to rent, and the beginnings of stability. Along the way I had the benefit of forming a close platonic relationship with an older trans woman who basically acted as my surrogate mom and definitely saved my life on more than one occasion. She’s an elder in the community and […]

Heart Bugs

Dear Dr. Eva, I’m on several new prescription medicines since I had a heart attack six months ago. I’m still not back to my normal strength, and I seem to get a lot of colds. I saw in the PDR that the side effects of both Coreg (carvedilol) and Plavix (clopidigrel) include bronchitis and upper respiratory infections! Is that why I get so many colds? RH   Dear RH, In case some readers don’t know, the PDR is the Physicians Desk Reference, a common reference book, available in public libraries. Based on what it says in the PDR, I can […]

Chemistry – the Elixir

You know that high, unbelievably energizing feeling of being drawn to another person? Not easily analyzed, or explained, but delicious nonetheless? It is what we all call chemistry, and it is how connections originate, whether short-lived or long-term. In all the years of working with people in relationships, I have come to be privy to how they met, what it was like to be drawn to others, and how then a connection gets stronger or fizzles out. Sometimes the fizzle takes years, but still, other factors keep people together. The bottom line is that we all want that emotional connection, […]

More Than $150,000 Raised to Support HIV Services

The AIDS Walk & Music Festival Baltimore 2019 surpassed its goal to raise $150,000 to support HIV services of Chase Brexton Health Care and its community partners.  More than 500 walkers, sponsors, performers, and volunteers gathered at Power Plant Live! on Sunday, June 9th to take steps to end HIV and AIDS in Baltimore. They were welcomed to the event by Chase Brexton head Patrick Mutch, special guest Montel Williams, and emcees Kai Jackson and Brandi Proctor of WBFF Fox 45. Donations will continue to be accepted through June 30th; visit BaltimoreAIDSWalk.org to make a contribution. “So many runners, walkers, volunteers, and teams […]

Exploring New Territory

Image credit: The Pacific Center Dear Andre, I’m a queer non-binary person in my early 30s, and I was recently approached by a woman in her early 20s who’s interested in pursuing a relationship with me. Despite the age difference she seems mature and level headed, and I’m totally attracted to her. However, she’s completely new to her queer identity, and I would be the first non-cis male she’s slept with. I’ve actually never “taken someone’s virginity” (ick), and I know that’s not exactly what’s happening here, but I do feel personally invested in making sure she’s okay. How do […]