Trans Care Across the Lifespan

With an ongoing and critical need for trained and welcoming health care providers to serve the transgender community, the LGBT Health Resource Center’s health equity training team will present an accredited one-day continuing education symposium on March 9th entitled “Trans Care Across the Lifespan.” Scheduled sessions will address issues of stigma, the local landscape of the transgender population in Baltimore and Maryland, and best practices for medical and behavioral health care for gender diverse children, adolescents, adults, and elders. Attendees will also hear from a panel of transgender community members about their experiences. Clinicians will learn the essentials of providing […]

Trusting Your Doctor Or Not?

Dear Dr. Eva, I’m a gay man in a long-term monogamous relationship. I have never had any sexually transmitted disease. Is there any real reason to come out to my doctor? I’m uncomfortable with him assuming I’m straight, but I don’t want to embarrass him. Discreet Dear Discreet, First, if your suspicion that knowing you are gay would embarrass your doctor is correct, you may need a different doctor. I hope that he’ll respond in a friendly, comfortable way that shows he is not embarrassed. It’s important for your doctor to have at least a basic understanding of who you […]

Love Online

Have you met your soulmate? That is, if you believe in that concept. Or, how do you meet potential partners? Once upon a time, there were matchmakers, good-intentioned family members, friends, and then it became bars, school or college, and even the workplace with its own set of issues. Check this statistic out: “In 2017, 39% of US heterosexual relationships and 65% of same-sex relationships began online.” (Tinyurl.com/yxb4abuv) This can’t be surprising given the length of time we spend in cyberworld. When I see the number of hours I personally devote to online usage, I am amazed. But then why […]

When Sex is a Blood Sport

Illustration by Laurene Boglio. Dear Andre, I’m a queer woman in my early 30s, and I’m in an amazing relationship with a woman in her early 40s. She’s kind, career-driven, funny, and hands down the hottest person I’ve ever been with – I can’t keep my hands off of her! There’s just one small issue: She refuses to be intimate with me when she’s menstruating. I think it has a lot to do with her past partners, because she only came out of the closet two years ago and has told me that at least one ex-boyfriend told her that […]

Spicing Up Your Love Life

Anyone looking to spice up their Valentine’s Day will have the chance to learn how food can play a role in their love life during an upcoming Lunch & Learn Workshop hosted by The LGBT Health Resource Center. The workshop is scheduled for Valentine’s Day (Thursday, February 14th) from noon to 1:30 pm in the community room at Chase Brexton’s Mount Vernon Center (1111 North Charles Street, Baltimore). Anyone interested in attending or receiving more information on this upcoming Lunch and Learn workshop should RSVP to lgbt@chasebrexton.org or call 410-837-2050 x1049. We asked the workshop’s presenter, Chase Brexton Health Care […]

The Person from H.O.M.U.N.C.U.L.U.S.

I had an interesting client the other day. They were seeing me for their feet when the conversation turned to their top surgery from several years ago and some of the odd sensations, they were still having which sometimes became distracting during sex. Their problem was that after the surgery things did not feel like they were in the correct spot. When they look in the mirror, they like what they see, and it confirms that they are who they think they are however when touching certain parts of the chest it feels like they are being touched in a […]

Random Penis Questions

Dear Dr. Eva, Guys sometimes wake up with an erection. We call this a piss hard-on because it goes down after pissing. Is there a difference between this and an erection caused by sexual arousal? Thank you. Mike Dear Mike, There is no physical difference. Men have erections as part of the normal sleep cycle. These erections are not necessarily associated with sexual dreams. Because of these normal sleep erections, men often wake up with erections whether they need to urinate or not. Erections go down with urination because it is near-impossible to urinate when the penis is fully erect. […]

You, Me, or Us

One of the transitions one makes going from a single life to a partnership, is adjusting to the concept of “us” or “coupledom.” It may not be a conscious shift, but sooner or later, there comes an instance when our own needs and wants collide with the other’s and then it is a time to be deliberate about just how you merge me with us. In all human interactions, a powerful dynamic is that of control. Who is in charge of this relationship? Does one person dominate in decision-making? Or is it a fairly balanced, equal footing combination? We come […]

Dating in the BDSM World

Dear Andre, I’m a trans man in my early twenties and I’m entering into my first D/S (Dominant/Submissive) relationship with a femme top. I’m very new to the BDSM scene and met this woman through an online group that connects local kinky queers to each other. While I’m thrilled to find someone with like interests, my gut instinct is saying that something’s off. Only a few days after meeting online she was instructing me on what I should wear and eat, then ordering me to send her photos to verify I was “following rules”. A few hours after meeting for […]

IS SECRECY EVER ACCEPTABLE?

When you read the title above, what was your first thought? How would you answer if it was you being secretive, or your partner? In any relationship, or friendship, trust in each other is one of the main building blocks. For that to exist and grow, we have to be open and honest in sharing thoughts, opinions, actions and feelings. But prerequisite to that is also what we know as self-awareness. To the extent that I know myself, my motivations and thoughts, I can communicate them to you. What if I am afraid that you will judge me or disapprove […]