How to Avoid Holiday Stress

The holidays can be a particularly stressful time of year for LGBT elders, from dealing with their families or families of choice to budgeting their time, energy, and finances. Tips for managing this stress and avoiding its negative health effects will be presented at an upcoming workshop hosted by the LGBT Health Resource Center of Chase Brexton Health Care. The workshop is scheduled for Thursday, December 13th from noon to 1:30 pm in the community rooms at Chase Brexton’s Mount Vernon Center (1111 North Charles Street, Baltimore). Anyone interested in attending or receiving more information on this upcoming Lunch and […]

A Groping Brother-in-Law

Dear Andre, I’m an openly gay man in my late 20s, and I’m blessed with a very supportive immediate family that includes my parents, grandparents, and older sister. My sister has been married to her husband for close to two years, and they have a ten-month-old son together. Recently I went home to celebrate Thanksgiving with everyone, and towards the end of the night I found myself alone in the kitchen cleaning up. My sister’s husband – who had been drinking heavily throughout the day – entered the kitchen and began chatting with me. Suddenly he came up behind me […]

Thinking Through the Holidays Part 2: Family issues

If you enjoyed Thanksgiving, and if you enjoy the holidays with no problems every year (or almost every year), and if you don’t know anyone who struggles with the holidays, then this column is not for you. Look at a different page. The first part of this article, in the last issue of Baltimore OUTloud, explained how to use thought techniques to decrease or completely get rid of the negative, depressing thoughts that trouble many people around the holidays. Most of these are self-critical thoughts. Once you identify these thoughts, you can see that they are not true and can […]

Questions about Sexual Health

Dear Dr. Eva, A relative recently tested positive for HIV. He has been working on a farm which always has swarms of biting mosquitos. He told me he thinks that he was infected with HIV by the mosquitos. Could that be true? If it is true, would he be entitled to Workmen’s Compensation to cover the cost of his HIV care? Aunt B Dear Auntie B, Some myths never die. There are many human diseases which can be passed by mosquitos. Only two of these occur in the mainland US: West Nile Fever and Eastern Equine Encephalitis. Worldwide, malaria is […]

All Hail Progress on HIV/AIDS

World AIDS Day will be commemorated locally in a special event on Nov. 30 at 9 a.m. at the Baltimore War Memorial. In addition to remembering those who have battled HIV and AIDS, the ceremony will be a call to action for testing and treatment, and a platform to debut the U=U Campaign in Baltimore. Ahead of World AIDS Day, we asked Dr. Sebastian Ruhs, director of Chase Brexton Health Care’s Infectious Diseases Center of Excellence, for an update on the status of HIV and AIDS in Baltimore. Overall, how would you describe the state of the fight against HIV/AIDS […]

Less Sex?

Have you seen the recent studies and statistics about teenagers and young adults having less sex? Given the options of birth control, greater freedom of expression of sexuality, and even low pregnancy and STD rates, not to mention all the dating and hookup sites, shouldn’t we be seeing an increase in sex? Young adults are reported to have fewer partners than the two generations before. Teenager abstinence seems to be rampant along with less sex by Gen Xers and Baby Boomers. It is true that fewer people are marrying and those who do, marry later. Many couples cohabitate without involving […]

Juggling Polyamory

Dear Andre,   I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for several years and am in committed, loving relationships with three partners. Recently, two of my partners have approached me – independent of one another – to express feeling neglected. They have concerns about how I manage my time and told me that their time with me often feels either rushed or obligatory, which certainly isn’t my intention. They also want me to work on how and when I communicate my availability to them. How can I successfully delegate time to all of my partners in a way that makes them feel […]

Sizes & Measurements… and different-sized breasts

Dear Dr. Eva, Which has more nutritional value, fellatio or cunnilingus? Nutrition Major Dear Nutrition Major, If you have been reading your assignments, you should know that, if you do it correctly, you won’t get any calories from oral sex, because you are using condoms or dental dams and are not taking any of your partner’s body fluids into your mouth. To answer the question as an academic exercise: the higher protein content in male ejaculate makes it a better nutritional source than vaginal fluid, although the amount of calories is minimal. If you are having sex with energy and […]

When Do You Leave an Argument?

So if you are discussing and then arguing about an issue or a conflict, what is your usual modus operandi? Do you get quiet and withdraw? Do you engage fully, and the discourse goes on for a while before the other party leaves? Do you follow each other from one room to another still angry? Or do you call a timeout and drop it altogether? It is impossible to be alive and not to have disagreements and conflicts with other people, especially with those we care about. So how we handle those make a difference in the quality of our […]

Taking Care of Our Community Transgender politics in focus

Since my last writing about the very personal and intimate sting of the news cycle, which revealed proposals to redefine sex and gender in a way that would roll back years of diligent work and progress that brought awareness to the true nature of gender, I’ve though more about how we take care of ourselves and our community and all the ways we can do more. As we begin Transgender Awareness Month, we’ll have many opportunities to gather in support and solidarity with transgender individuals. Many of us will attend a vigil to honor the Transgender Day of Remembrance. We […]