Can You Get That from a Toilet Seat?

Dear Dr. Eva, ​I love your columns and appreciate the variety of topics you address – always sensitively. ​I know this sounds nutty, but how safe (or not) are public / shared toilets? I remember as a kid my mom would carry those paper toilet seat covers or use toilet paper before sitting down. My sister does the same. But is it really necessary? Especially if there’s nothing visible on it and you know it’s cleaned nightly? I’ve been wondering this for years but have been too embarrassed to ask. ​;) Thanks!! ​Pee-shy   Dear Pee-Shy, ​It’s not necessary. There […]

Living Alone

I am old enough to remember that once upon a time, a man – or heaven forbid, a woman – living alone was frowned upon. There were all kinds of explanations or rumors as to why they may be doing so. We now know that there are millions of people in this country and elsewhere who choose to live by themselves and enjoy every minute of it. There are also those who for different reasons end up in the same lifestyle but are not happy about it. It definitely creates much consternation when one does not have a choice in […]

When a Pelvis Needs Some Elvis

May is National Pelvic Pain Month from which an estimated 15% of men and women suffer. I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Alicia Bolden-Jeffers, a fellow physical therapist who not only has treated women and men for pelvic pain but is also a survivor of pelvic pain. Pelvic pain in general terms would be any pain “down there” in the groin, taint, anus, and tailbone. This can lead to sexual dysfunction ranging from erectile dysfunction in men to painful penetration in men and women, pain when riding a bike, sitting in the car, or even having a bowel movement. […]

Baltimore observance of National Honor our LGBT Elders Day

The struggles and triumphs of LGBT elders will be remembered during a night of laughter, inspiration and recognition at Baltimore’s upcoming National Honor Our LGBT Elders Day event. The celebration will take place Thursday, May 16th from 5:30 to 8 pm at Baltimore Center Stage, featuring storytelling vignettes from community leaders as well as a buffet dinner. General admission tickets are $30 and are available at Tinyurl.com/elderday2019. We asked the Center’s director, Sam McClure, to share a preview of the event and discuss its importance: Why is it so important to set aside a day and hold a celebration to […]

Travel Tips: Staying Active on Vacation

With summer quickly approaching, people are already making travel plans to squeeze the most out of summer and maximize on all the sunshine and fun times. Depending on where you’re traveling to, you may not have access to workout equipment. While you’re on vacation, it is important to get rest and relaxation, but that doesn’t mean you can’t also enjoy some physical activity! Here are some tips to stay active on vacation. Whether it’s a trip to the Carolinas, backpacking through Spain, or cruising the Caribbean, make sure to squeeze in some unconventional exercises to keep your body and mind […]

Scissoring: Afraid to Ask?

Dear Andre, I’m hoping you’ll settle a debate between my girlfriend and me. She’s been trying to sell me on “scissoring,” but I’ve only ever heard guys talk about it and I’m convinced this isn’t a real thing that authentically queer women do. What’s the deal? Sincerely, Alyson B.   Alyson, Not only is scissoring a real thing, but way more queer women engage in it than you’d initially think! In 2015, the progressively feminist web blog Autostraddle conducted an Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey (open to all women who sleep with women), and a whopping 40.7% of the 8,556 women […]

Embarrassing Urinary Problems

Dear Dr. Eva, I am an overweight woman in my 30s. I’m having a problem where, even though I feel like I have completely emptied my bladder on the toilet, when I stand up, I often briefly leak a little bit. When I asked my doctor about this, she just told me to lose weight. I am so tired of everything being blamed on my weight, I didn’t pursue the conversation with her any more. How does it make sense for this to be related to my weight? Do you have any practical suggestions as to what this is and […]

Upcoming workshop to offer LGBT elders Tips for Aging in Place

Getting older can bring plenty of challenges, but some of the most immediate may lie within the walls of your own home. Ensuring your home is set up to meet your changing needs can seem intimidating and pricey – but it doesn’t have to be. An upcoming Lunch & Learn workshop hosted by the LGBT Health Resource Center on Thursday, May 9th from noon to 1:30 pm will present tips on easy, affordable upgrades to make your home safer, and on financial resources to assist with more significant upgrades. The session will be presented by Molly Wisniewski, manager of Civic […]

Infatuated But Sexually at Odds

Dear Andre, I’m a gay guy in my early 20s and I’m super infatuated with my new boyfriend. The only issue is, he’s not into giving blowjobs. Receiving oral sex has always been a massive turn-on for me; I’ve never had a relationship without it. So far, I’ve been just fine giving him blowjobs without them being reciprocated, but some of my friends are telling me to dump him. They’re convinced that in 2019 there’s no excuse to not be giving equal time and pleasure to your partner. What do you think? Is my boyfriend being unreasonable, or is his […]

Surface Issues

Dear Dr. Eva, I have an itchy rash under my testicles and on my inner thighs. I’ve been told it’s jock itch. I’ve used different creams, but it keeps coming back. Could this be a sign of something serious? T.J. Dear T.J., Probably not. Jock itch (the medical name is tinea cruris), which is caused by a fungus, is often hard to get rid of. You need to keep the area as clean and dry as possible, apply antifungal cream or powder twice a day every day, and keep applying it for a couple of weeks after the rash seems […]