Ten Steps to Mindful Wedding Planning

Your wedding planning – just like your wedding – is a spiritual, emotional, and physical experience. It involves contemplation, conversation, and even collaboration. There are big decisions to make, serious discussions to have, and often, a jillion details to manage. Almost every relationship in your world will be considered and examined. There are places to go and people to see. That’s a lot to do! Couples that haven’t prepared themselves for wedding planning often fall into confusion and chaos. So here are ten steps to help you plan your wedding with ease and joy. Do it together – Two of […]

Let’s Talk Dessert!

Weddings are about two things: celebrating the union of two people, and providing hospitality to those who’ve come to celebrate. How you chose to do those two things is entirely up to you. That freedom extends to dessert! Cake – Love wedding cake? Wonderful! Go for it. There are dozens of cake flavors from which to choose, with an exponential number of layer combinations. Add to that all of the possibilities in surface decoration, and you have infinite varieties of wedding cake. Cupcakes – One step away from cake brings us to cupcakes, which are simply cake in a different […]

Venue Tour Checklist

Some of the best fun you’ll have in planning your wedding is visiting venues! You get to see interesting and unique spaces, some of which you’d never see otherwise. Choosing a venue takes time. There is information to gather, places to visit, and time to spend talking and reflecting with your partner. Give yourself the gift of time. Here are some things to know and do: • Know when you want to get married – You don’t have to have an exact date – although some couples do – but have a range in mind, whether it’s any Saturday in […]

Great Alternatives to a Big Wedding!

Want a fabulous wedding that doesn’t cost tens of thousands of dollars or involve 100-plus guests? Let’s talk elopement! Small is beautiful! You can have everything you want, including a stunningly-beautiful wedding venue, professional photography, beautiful flowers, live music, and of course, a gorgeous outfit, without the fuss and expense of lots of guests. Traditionally, “elopement” refers to a wedding ceremony in which only the couple to be married and the wedding officiant, who conducts the ceremony, are present. Today, elopement is a term of art used in the wedding world to describe a wedding ceremony with as many as […]

Making a Joyful Noise

Most people don’t see live music on a regular basis. It’s special. The core experience of weddings is the spiritual and emotional beauty of two people joining their lives together. Couples honor and embrace that experience by creating a beautiful environment, and using sacred and secular rituals. The idea is to create something special and memorable, infused with beauty in every possible way. A lot of what couples think about as they plan their wedding centers around visual beauty. That’s a good and important thing to do, to be sure. But imagine a wedding ceremony and reception in complete silence, […]

Better Safe (and Dry) Than Sorry

I remember being in the checkout line at Whole Foods a June or three ago and hearing the customer ahead of me talking to the cashier about her upcoming wedding. My ears perked up. I asked, as I do, “Where are you getting married?” “Federal Hill,” she responded. Now as you may know, Federal Hill is both a neighborhood and a park in Baltimore, all on the National Register of Historic Places. She was talking about the park, which is set on a steep hill overlooking the Inner Harbor. On another June day, in 1608, explorer John Smith called it, […]

The Perfect Backyard Tented Reception

If a backyard wedding is your heart’s desire, putting a tent up is a great way to create something special for your wedding. There are lots of types and styles of tents, and many sizes. A good tent rental company will take the time to carefully assess your needs and recommend the best tent for your wedding. I’m a big fan of clear tents. Looking up at trees, buildings, and sky through a clear canopy is an almost transcendent experience! A clear canopy and sides make your tent as invisible as any tent could ever be, and allows views of […]

Even More on Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. In this and the two previous columns we’re looking at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. I used to be a fan of open seating for wedding receptions. I’ve changed my mind over the years, and here’s why: Weddings by definition bring people together from two people’s lives, many of whom have never met. Both partners have immediate and extended families, old and […]

More on Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. In this and columns before and after we’re looking at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. Let’s talk venue selection and its relationship to loving your guests. There are lots of things to think about in choosing your wedding venue, including offering your guests the best hospitality possible while getting exactly the venue that’s right for you and your sweetheart. Here’s a few […]

Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. Let’s take a look at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. Here are a couple of really important ones: Feed them well. If your wedding and reception stretch over a meal hour, feed your guests a full meal that they will enjoy. One of the things that guests remember most about weddings was whether the food was good or not – and if […]