Better Safe (and Dry) Than Sorry

I remember being in the checkout line at Whole Foods a June or three ago and hearing the customer ahead of me talking to the cashier about her upcoming wedding. My ears perked up. I asked, as I do, “Where are you getting married?” “Federal Hill,” she responded. Now as you may know, Federal Hill is both a neighborhood and a park in Baltimore, all on the National Register of Historic Places. She was talking about the park, which is set on a steep hill overlooking the Inner Harbor. On another June day, in 1608, explorer John Smith called it, […]

The Perfect Backyard Tented Reception

If a backyard wedding is your heart’s desire, putting a tent up is a great way to create something special for your wedding. There are lots of types and styles of tents, and many sizes. A good tent rental company will take the time to carefully assess your needs and recommend the best tent for your wedding. I’m a big fan of clear tents. Looking up at trees, buildings, and sky through a clear canopy is an almost transcendent experience! A clear canopy and sides make your tent as invisible as any tent could ever be, and allows views of […]

Even More on Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. In this and the two previous columns we’re looking at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. I used to be a fan of open seating for wedding receptions. I’ve changed my mind over the years, and here’s why: Weddings by definition bring people together from two people’s lives, many of whom have never met. Both partners have immediate and extended families, old and […]

More on Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. In this and columns before and after we’re looking at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. Let’s talk venue selection and its relationship to loving your guests. There are lots of things to think about in choosing your wedding venue, including offering your guests the best hospitality possible while getting exactly the venue that’s right for you and your sweetheart. Here’s a few […]

Loving Your Guests

  Weddings are about two things: Bringing people together to participate in and celebrate the union of two people, and those two people offering hospitality to those participants. Let’s take a look at the many and varied ways that you can make your guests feel welcome and appreciated. Here are a couple of really important ones: Feed them well. If your wedding and reception stretch over a meal hour, feed your guests a full meal that they will enjoy. One of the things that guests remember most about weddings was whether the food was good or not – and if […]

The Care and Feeding of Wedding Professionals

Your wedding professionals want to give you their best possible work. Couples who are well-organized and get things done months before their wedding are much more likely to get everything they want. Avoid the last-minute crunch. Give your wedding professionals lots of time to make the magic happen! Change and the unforeseen happen all the time with weddings. Work with your professionals to create plans and back-up plans for all the different aspects of your wedding. You’ll love the peace of mind that brings. The best wedding professionals are always prepared for all kinds of things to happen, from crazy […]

Feeding the Multitudes

  Let’s talk food! Specifically, how the food at your wedding gets from the kitchen to you and your guests. There are three commonly-used food service styles for weddings: buffet, seated and served, and cocktail-style. Buffet is the style of dinner service that’s probably most familiar to you. Food is set up on a table or group of tables all in one place, with service from either one side or both sides of the table. I am, by the way, a big fan of the two-sided buffet. Do it if you have the room. You’ll feed your guests twice as […]

Wedding Planning Essentials

  Two of the most joyful experiences partners can have together are learning new things and creating something from scratch. Planning your wedding is exactly that. It’s an adventure that will bring you face-to-face with all sorts of opportunities for discovery, creativity, and reflection. My best overall advice around wedding planning is for the two of you to set an intention to make the planning process fun, easy for each other, and full of love. There are a jillion details to manage and big discussions to have. You’ll be talking about money, and lots of it. Almost every relationship in […]

Creating Your Guest List

    The size and composition of your guest list has a lot to do with getting the wedding you want. It affects the time and cost involved in everything related to your guests, from the choice of venue to the cost of catering to the length of the reception, among many others. In a less tangible but equally important way, your guest list affects the energy or, if you prefer, the feel, of your ceremony and, to an even greater extent, your reception. Creating a guest list for your wedding can be a source of stress, frustration, and confusion. […]

Do You Need a Wedding Planner?

Wedding planners can be a gift from the gods – if you need one. The truth is, most couples don’t. If you’re planning a wedding for 100 guests on a $10-25,000 budget, there are very few reasons to use a wedding planner. Here are three criteria to help you decide if you do: • Your wedding budget is $50,000 or more. It’s not unusual to pay a minimum of $3,000 for full-service wedding planning. The final fee is likely to be much more. • You’re planning to invite 150 or more guests.  More people means more of everything, and more time and […]