I’m Home, Baltimore

If I have any one place to thank for my rich queer identity, it’s Baltimore. I grew up in a small farming town in southern New Jersey. Flush in resources like produce stands and ignorance, it left much to be desired when it came to embracing its LGBTQ youth. “Survival” looked a whole lot like maintaining good friends and a resilient spirit, as well as having access to the worldwide web. The Internet provided a haven for our raging hormones and conflicted thoughts, one that taught us about queerness, desire, pleasure, anatomy, reproductive rights, and cultural diversity. We learned shame […]

Finding Her Calling A profile of Karen Bellesky – Chase Brexton’s longest-serving employee

It took a little while before Karen Bellesky’s new job became her calling – all of two months. Hired in April 1992 as Chase Brexton Health Care’s first registered dietician, Karen wasn’t familiar with the clinic and believed she was taking just another job. Instead, she was deeply moved by the dedication of her colleagues and the great struggles her patients faced, and quickly became a passionate advocate for Chase Brexton’s work. The turning point came about two months into her tenure, when Karen met with a person dying of AIDS and the patient’s partner. The couple playfully asked how […]

The Supreme Court’s Job

Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall once stated that “Equal means getting the same thing, at the same time and in the same place.” During the years of the Marshall Court and those that followed, when the huge social issues of the day made their way to the Supreme Court, people like you and me and all the other members of the LGBT community held out hope that achieving that definition of equality could happen someday for us. Maybe it would not be today and maybe not tomorrow – but the hope and the faith that one day we would be […]

Is There Justice … in the Immigration Court system?

This past August 8th, the National Association of Immigration Judges filed a grievance/complaint with the Executive Office of Immigration Review (EOIR) based on the actions of US Attorney General Sessions, who ordered an assistant chief judge from Falls Church, Virginia, to travel to Philadelphia for the sole purpose of entering an order of removal against a person who had not appeared for a hearing. The immigration judge (IJ) who had handled the case had closed the removal case because the Office of Chief Counsel (“OCC”) in Philadelphia had not been able to prove that the person had actually received the […]

Stopping Medicines Safely

Dear Dr. Eva, Is it really dangerous to stop medications without tapering off? People (me included) often seem to do it with no problems. Skeptical Dear Skeptical, It is true that many prescription medications can be stopped suddenly without problems. However, there are some kinds of medications that are dangerous to stop suddenly. Whether it is safe to stop a medication suddenly depends on two things: how the medicine is metabolized (broken down and eliminated from the body) and what condition is being treated. When a medicine is prescribed to treat a chronic problem like diabetes, high blood pressure, or […]

Living with Anxiety

You know that feeling of butterflies in the stomach, being out of sorts, shaky, not able to focus on what you have to do but your mind worrying, worrying about all kinds of things? Sometimes it can immobilize you, because of fear about what might happen. At times, it could be that you are ruminating and thinking of what the partner may be up to … Is he or she thinking of leaving the relationship? Or falling in love with someone else? What anxiety signifies is the mind sensing a threat, an arrow aimed at you, your sense of self, […]

To Theme or Not to Theme?

Renaissance, anime, costume, Halloween, goth, Gatsby, period, geek, and a full-on Harry Potter wedding, with Dumbledore acting as the officiant! All have happened – or in the case of the Harry Potter wedding, are about to happen –  at Chase Court, the wedding venue I own and run. Theme weddings are always memorable, and always lots of fun! In fact, the common thread running through every theme wedding that I’ve experienced is “fun.” So, one way to have fun is to have a theme wedding. But is it right for you? Couples are attracted to each other by – and […]

Prost German Restaurant

Prost German Restaurant 1195 Jacob Tome Memorial Highway Port Deposit, Maryland 443-731-1889 Prostinn.com As the cooler weather ushers in a change of colors on the trees, the sadness of summer’s end is tempered with savory flavors and cold Octoberfest brew. The German scene may have gone kaput in Baltimore, but Prost German Restaurant satisfies the experience no matter what time of year. Start with a sample of apps such as the Fliegende Schweinchen (huge, tender pork wings), Frittierter Camembert with Lingonberry Sauce (a classier and slightly tangy fried mozzarella) and Brezen Baum (pretzel tree). Wash all of it down with […]

Employee Benefit Options

It’s getting to be that time of year. If you haven’t already, you should soon receive your 2019 employee benefit options from your employer. These options typically include selecting a health insurance plan, dental, and vision coverage. Your employer may also provide for things such as life insurance, disability insurance, and/or a flexible spending account (FSA). Because you have to wait a full year before you can change your mind, it’s important to take care with your elections. Life insurance – Employers often provide some sort of basic insurance coverage. This could be $50,000 or some multiple of your salary. […]

The Ethical Workplace

What makes a workplace an ethical workplace? “Ethics” invokes thoughts of someone knowing and acting on what is right or fair. This is true even when thinking about an organization. The concept of ethics sits on a basis of common understandings of four areas: Transparency, Honesty, Confidentiality, and Protection of Rights. Transparency deals with the level of trust in the stakeholder / organization relationship. Being transparent means a company is committed to releasing detailed information about their processes and transactions to stakeholders: those individuals who have an interest in the company’s performance. A natural progression of transparent actions and communications […]