Win-Win? … Or win-lose?

We live in a culture – and indeed in a world – where the attitude is that if I win, you lose, or if you win, I am condemned to lose. And of course, losing has a negative connotation. How does that work in a relationship? Or even in any human interaction? Do you look to see who is right? Is it more important to you to be right at the expense of your connection to another person? I come upon many people who say that their partners never admit to being wrong, or never apologize, taking responsibility for their […]

Is Anxiety the Same as Depression ?

Dear Dr. Eva, What’s the difference between depression and anxiety? I was told at different times that I have both. Is it just two names for the same thing? BT   Dear BT, Depression and anxiety are two different conditions and involve two different sets of problems, but it isn’t unusual for a person to have both conditions. Both depression and anxiety are disorders of mood, called “affective disorders” in medical language. For most people who have both depression and anxiety, one of the two conditions is more severe, which leads to diagnoses like “depression with features of anxiety,”or “anxiety […]

EMG and Biofeedback

One of the hidden treasures of a pelvic physical therapist is the use of ElectroMyoGraphy (EMG) The first question to answer is: what is it? Electromyography (also known as EMG) is a way in which I can look at the electrical activity of your muscles. We have heard of an EEG (ElectroEncephaloGram), which reads the wave patterns of the brain and nerve conduction studies in which they look at the electrical activity of the nerves. This is similar in that we are looking at electrical activity but EMG is focusing on your muscles. So, what? Big deal! What does that […]

Sexual Benefits of Kegel Exercises

If you’ve heard of Kegel exercises, you might think that their positive effects are limited to women, particularly following childbirth. But Kegel exercises can improve anyone’s sexual function, improve bladder and bowel health, and even help with back pain! These benefits will be detailed at an upcoming Lunch & Learn workshop hosted by the LGBT Health Resource Center on Thursday, July 11th from noon to 1:30 pm. We asked Charles Dudley, a Baltimore-based personal trainer and the session’s presenter, to share a bit more about Kegel exercises and their positive benefits. How can Kegels affect sexual function? Kegels are exercises […]

From the Depths

In this edition of “Fit for Life,” Joshua H. Buchbinder turns over the podium to a woman who wishes to remain anonymous Most 16-year-old kids look forward to their driver’s license, first job, and becoming an upperclassman. I was faced with the destruction and agony of being a heavy drinker and drug user. Hopeless, defeated, and shattered I disappointed my family and teachers. My parents were divorced but co-existed amicably, and I had grown up in a faith-based, alcohol-free home. At 15, the few months of summer freedom exposed me to “typical teenager experimenting” – cigarettes, weed, alcohol, and sex. […]

On Your Terms

Dear Andre,  I’m a trans femme punk girl in her mid-twenties and I desperately need some advice. I came out as trans at home when I was 17 and my parents promptly kicked me out of the house. After being homeless for over a year I finally found work, a room to rent, and the beginnings of stability. Along the way I had the benefit of forming a close platonic relationship with an older trans woman who basically acted as my surrogate mom and definitely saved my life on more than one occasion. She’s an elder in the community and […]

Is Ptown’s Joe Coffee the Jolt Your Dating Life Needs?

Glenn Siegmund is a Webster, Massachusetts, native and former CIO and IT professional with over 30 years of experience. Why on earth has he recently acquired Joe Coffee in Provincetown with longtime friends Mark Shaw and Peter McBrien? Is this an elaborate ploy to improve his dating prospects or are they teaming up to bring the most addictive year-round coffee experience to the Cape? Let’s bother him with delightful questions.  Kevin: Do you recall your first queer experience with coffee? Glenn: I was a huge Janet Jackson fan. She was touting the benefits of coffee enemas and their ability to […]

Backyard Blues

Caroline Hax, who writes an advice column for the Washington Post, recently answered a question from a bride who wanted to have a “small backyard wedding with about 75 guests” in her grandmother’s backyard. The bride thought that such a gathering was no big deal, which is to say that she said that all they would need t Two o do is “get some chairs and everything will work out.” Can you see where this is going? As it happened, the bride’s family was far more aware of what a wedding for 75 guests requires, as well as the impact […]

Heart Bugs

Dear Dr. Eva, I’m on several new prescription medicines since I had a heart attack six months ago. I’m still not back to my normal strength, and I seem to get a lot of colds. I saw in the PDR that the side effects of both Coreg (carvedilol) and Plavix (clopidigrel) include bronchitis and upper respiratory infections! Is that why I get so many colds? RH   Dear RH, In case some readers don’t know, the PDR is the Physicians Desk Reference, a common reference book, available in public libraries. Based on what it says in the PDR, I can […]

Chemistry – the Elixir

You know that high, unbelievably energizing feeling of being drawn to another person? Not easily analyzed, or explained, but delicious nonetheless? It is what we all call chemistry, and it is how connections originate, whether short-lived or long-term. In all the years of working with people in relationships, I have come to be privy to how they met, what it was like to be drawn to others, and how then a connection gets stronger or fizzles out. Sometimes the fizzle takes years, but still, other factors keep people together. The bottom line is that we all want that emotional connection, […]