How to Avoid Holiday Stress

The holidays can be a particularly stressful time of year for LGBT elders, from dealing with their families or families of choice to budgeting their time, energy, and finances. Tips for managing this stress and avoiding its negative health effects will be presented at an upcoming workshop hosted by the LGBT Health Resource Center of Chase Brexton Health Care. The workshop is scheduled for Thursday, December 13th from noon to 1:30 pm in the community rooms at Chase Brexton’s Mount Vernon Center (1111 North Charles Street, Baltimore). Anyone interested in attending or receiving more information on this upcoming Lunch and […]

A Groping Brother-in-Law

Dear Andre, I’m an openly gay man in my late 20s, and I’m blessed with a very supportive immediate family that includes my parents, grandparents, and older sister. My sister has been married to her husband for close to two years, and they have a ten-month-old son together. Recently I went home to celebrate Thanksgiving with everyone, and towards the end of the night I found myself alone in the kitchen cleaning up. My sister’s husband – who had been drinking heavily throughout the day – entered the kitchen and began chatting with me. Suddenly he came up behind me […]

Thinking Through the Holidays Part 2: Family issues

If you enjoyed Thanksgiving, and if you enjoy the holidays with no problems every year (or almost every year), and if you don’t know anyone who struggles with the holidays, then this column is not for you. Look at a different page. The first part of this article, in the last issue of Baltimore OUTloud, explained how to use thought techniques to decrease or completely get rid of the negative, depressing thoughts that trouble many people around the holidays. Most of these are self-critical thoughts. Once you identify these thoughts, you can see that they are not true and can […]

These Unpredictable Markets

While the past seven years have been a relatively smooth ride for the markets, the past couple of months have been more like riding on a roller coaster. Market volatility such as this can present challenges for investors. Without a clear direction up or down, investors have trouble deciding how and where to invest their money. Some are looking for security and moving their money back into cash and bonds while others are using the down days as opportunities to buy into stocks. Sage Advice – The average investor will find that the old advice could still ring true. Most […]

Keep the Ho, Ho, Ho in the Holidays!

As we head into the holiday season each year, we also head into one of the most dangerous for credit fraud and stolen identities. The more you use your credit cards, at malls or online, the more opportunities there are for criminals to hack into computer systems and tarnish some of your holiday cheer. Fortunately, there is a new protection available to all consumers, and I wanted to share a press release from the Federal Trade Commission with news you might want to keep in your files in case you ever need it: Free credit freezes and year-long fraud alerts […]

Ten Not-So-Complicated Steps……for planning your wedding, Part 2

In the last issue we talked about the first five steps to planning your wedding. Here’s a quick recap: Step 1 – Think about the wedding you want. Step 2 – What’s your budget? Step 3 – How many guests do you plan to invite? Step 4 – Where in the world do you want to get married? Step 5 – When do you want to get married? Now we’re going to put those first five steps to work and start shopping! Here’s where you’ll make use of those budget and guest count numbers, the decisions you made in step […]

Questions about Sexual Health

Dear Dr. Eva, A relative recently tested positive for HIV. He has been working on a farm which always has swarms of biting mosquitos. He told me he thinks that he was infected with HIV by the mosquitos. Could that be true? If it is true, would he be entitled to Workmen’s Compensation to cover the cost of his HIV care? Aunt B Dear Auntie B, Some myths never die. There are many human diseases which can be passed by mosquitos. Only two of these occur in the mainland US: West Nile Fever and Eastern Equine Encephalitis. Worldwide, malaria is […]

All Hail Progress on HIV/AIDS

World AIDS Day will be commemorated locally in a special event on Nov. 30 at 9 a.m. at the Baltimore War Memorial. In addition to remembering those who have battled HIV and AIDS, the ceremony will be a call to action for testing and treatment, and a platform to debut the U=U Campaign in Baltimore. Ahead of World AIDS Day, we asked Dr. Sebastian Ruhs, director of Chase Brexton Health Care’s Infectious Diseases Center of Excellence, for an update on the status of HIV and AIDS in Baltimore. Overall, how would you describe the state of the fight against HIV/AIDS […]

When Should You Write Your First Will ?

The idea of being “proactive” has never held much appeal. Burglar alarms are often installed only after the house has been looted. Trip insurance is frequently purchased for the vacation taken after the one that goes awry. And yes, barn doors are often locked after the horse has been stolen. The same is true of having a will prepared. It’s one activity that can’t be put off until after the need arises. Instead, it is often some galvanizing life event that first prompts someone to prepare a will. • “My mother died and her estate was a mess. I want […]

America Immigration Law in Disarray

Since riding down the escalator to announce his candidacy for President, Trump has tried to change the policies and laws concerning people who are not citizens of the US. His attempts have, for the most part, failed because there are federal judges willing to rule against him when lawsuits challenging those attempts were filed. In January and March 2017, Trump signed executive orders trying to ban all Muslims from entering the US. Judges in the Fourth and Ninth Circuit Courts of Appeals ruled that those orders were unconstitutional and granted restraining orders until the Supreme Court, in June 2018, entered […]