Hope Faith Love

To start my story with this journey of Hope, Faith, and Love, I never thought my life would turn out the way it is today. For years before my transition date October 1, 2010 the thought never cross my mine to live my life as a woman, even though I was dressing like one for 40 years of my life. I use to always wish in my 30s and 40s I wish I had three wishes. My first wish would be to have all the wishes I could have, so that I could say this day I want to be […]

New HIV Treatment

Dear Dr. Eva, I read that there’s a new HIV medicine out. How different is it from other HIV medicines? Should I ask my doctor if I can switch? Treatment Experienced Dear TE, A new HIV medicine called fostemsavir (brand name Rukobia) was approved early last month (July 2020).  Fostemsavir is an entry inhibitor, which means it prevents the HIV virus from getting inside the specialized white blood cells (T cells) that HIV infects. Over time, T cells that have already been infected die off and are replaced.  When an entry inhibitor is taken, the HIV virus cannot get inside […]

Reinventing Relationships

Whether you are in an established relationship, wanting to start one, or early on in one, in these last several months with the pandemic, we have all been impacted and have had to adjust, adapt, negotiate, re-negotiate or even end our connections. Human nature thrives on social contact. Even if you may be an introvert, you still need that soul-feeding emotional bond with other human beings, maybe not too many, but still. Sometimes it is a family connection; other times it is a friend or a romantic partner. In the words of the 17th century English poet, John Donne, “no […]

Who’s Driving this Bus Anyway?

How much are you in control of your day? The decisions you made earlier today? Do you remember getting dressed this morning? Watching TV, catching up on the news, checking email? Was it pretty much the same routine as yesterday? Think about how you got dressed this morning. What went on first? Was it shirt, socks, or underwear first? Try reversing the order one day and see how awkward it feels. See how much longer it takes to get dressed. Do you brush your teeth before or after getting dressed? Where does showering fit into the routine? How long have […]

Healing Resources for Black Queer and Trans Communities

In this time of great change, uncertainty, and hope, we at the LGBT Health Resource Center wanted to offer a list of resources to support black members of our communities who may be in need of healing, support, therapy, and self-care. Our Center is here for you as well – visit Resourcecenter.lgbt to learn more. Asterisked items are explicitly LGBTQ / Same Gender Loving-focused services.   Healing Yoga with Jessamyn Stanley (Jessamynstanley.com) – Jessamyn Stanley is a black queer fat femme yoga teacher and writer who works to make the practice accessible to all bodies and people of all means. […]

MENTAL HEALTH MOMENT – You Are So Beautiful

By Dr. Terri Griffith What do you like about your body? As the clinical coordinator for Sheppard Pratt’s Center for Eating Disorders, that’s a question I often ask my patients to begin the process of helping them shift the narrative they tell themselves about their own bodies. For some patients, it might be difficult to acknowledge something they like about their bodies. So sometimes the question has to be changed to, “What are you okay with about your body” or even “What can you tolerate about your body?” Go ahead and reflect on your own body image and think about […]

Writing Your Own Epilogue

Shakespeare said, “A good play needs no epilogue.” When a story is compellingly told, in other words, there is no need for commentary after the curtain falls. Like a play that is well written, a life that is well lived speaks for itself. But living well includes knowing that you have planned for what happens after you are gone. This foresight includes how easily your estate will be passed down to the people you care about. Have you written a will that names someone to settle your estate? If something were to happen to you, do you know who would […]

These Are Unusual Times

Last month, I wrote about what it’s been like to work in a hospital during the time of COVID-19. What’s changed since then? I’d say quite a lot. The question really is, of all that has changed, what will stick? Basic change management principles tell us that when we make changes, we “unfreeze” and then “refreeze” after changes have been completed. This basic principle is very simplistic. Once reality sets in, we soon realize refreezing may not be possible depending on the scale and speed of changes. From my perspective, there are two major changes that have rocked all our […]

The Stats Are Improving

According to the National Association of Realtors (NAR), homebuyers are increasingly emerging from their hiding places to buy houses, which reports pending home sales spiked a stunning 44.3% in May compared with April. This constitutes the largest one-month jump in the history of the nearly 20-year-old survey and beats expectations of a 15% gain. While it still represents a lower number than a year ago, pending sales measures signed contracts on existing homes, demonstrating how buyers were shopping through May. “Sales had fallen 22% for the month in April, as the economy shut down to slow the spread of the […]

Living with Ambiguity

In the last 3 months, we have read, heard, viewed or talked with friends, family, coworkers, scientists, officials and others, and have been exposed all kinds of views, opinions, facts and counter facts. The human brain seeks comfort in consistency and at least a sense of temporary certainty. Alas, we don’t have that. How do you deal with those in your life when it comes to restrictions regarding the coronavirus? Masks, face coverings, social distancing, and other preventive measures have become not only political, but unfortunately and regrettably, reflective of one’s strength of character or personality, or one’s concepts of […]