Can You Get That from a Toilet Seat?

Dear Dr. Eva, ​I love your columns and appreciate the variety of topics you address – always sensitively. ​I know this sounds nutty, but how safe (or not) are public / shared toilets? I remember as a kid my mom would carry those paper toilet seat covers or use toilet paper before sitting down. My sister does the same. But is it really necessary? Especially if there’s nothing visible on it and you know it’s cleaned nightly? I’ve been wondering this for years but have been too embarrassed to ask. ​;) Thanks!! ​Pee-shy   Dear Pee-Shy, ​It’s not necessary. There […]

Living Alone

I am old enough to remember that once upon a time, a man – or heaven forbid, a woman – living alone was frowned upon. There were all kinds of explanations or rumors as to why they may be doing so. We now know that there are millions of people in this country and elsewhere who choose to live by themselves and enjoy every minute of it. There are also those who for different reasons end up in the same lifestyle but are not happy about it. It definitely creates much consternation when one does not have a choice in […]

When a Pelvis Needs Some Elvis

May is National Pelvic Pain Month from which an estimated 15% of men and women suffer. I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Alicia Bolden-Jeffers, a fellow physical therapist who not only has treated women and men for pelvic pain but is also a survivor of pelvic pain. Pelvic pain in general terms would be any pain “down there” in the groin, taint, anus, and tailbone. This can lead to sexual dysfunction ranging from erectile dysfunction in men to painful penetration in men and women, pain when riding a bike, sitting in the car, or even having a bowel movement. […]

Baltimore observance of National Honor our LGBT Elders Day

The struggles and triumphs of LGBT elders will be remembered during a night of laughter, inspiration and recognition at Baltimore’s upcoming National Honor Our LGBT Elders Day event. The celebration will take place Thursday, May 16th from 5:30 to 8 pm at Baltimore Center Stage, featuring storytelling vignettes from community leaders as well as a buffet dinner. General admission tickets are $30 and are available at Tinyurl.com/elderday2019. We asked the Center’s director, Sam McClure, to share a preview of the event and discuss its importance: Why is it so important to set aside a day and hold a celebration to […]

Travel Tips: Staying Active on Vacation

With summer quickly approaching, people are already making travel plans to squeeze the most out of summer and maximize on all the sunshine and fun times. Depending on where you’re traveling to, you may not have access to workout equipment. While you’re on vacation, it is important to get rest and relaxation, but that doesn’t mean you can’t also enjoy some physical activity! Here are some tips to stay active on vacation. Whether it’s a trip to the Carolinas, backpacking through Spain, or cruising the Caribbean, make sure to squeeze in some unconventional exercises to keep your body and mind […]

Scissoring: Afraid to Ask?

Dear Andre, I’m hoping you’ll settle a debate between my girlfriend and me. She’s been trying to sell me on “scissoring,” but I’ve only ever heard guys talk about it and I’m convinced this isn’t a real thing that authentically queer women do. What’s the deal? Sincerely, Alyson B.   Alyson, Not only is scissoring a real thing, but way more queer women engage in it than you’d initially think! In 2015, the progressively feminist web blog Autostraddle conducted an Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey (open to all women who sleep with women), and a whopping 40.7% of the 8,556 women […]

Maya Montana, What Should We Do?!

Maya Montana has been impersonating females for 25 years as a performer starting in Baltimore. Here, she won Miss Gay Maryland Newcomer 1994, Miss Hippo 1995, and Miss Gay Maryland 1996. She subsequently moved to Virginia winning the title Miss Gay Virginia 1997 and ultimately Miss Gay America 1998. Maya now resides in Key West as an entertainer at Aqua Nightclub. Notorious for her elaborate peacock costume, let’s ruffle her feathers and dive into her world for some fanciful advice. Kevin Assam: The hair spray for my Tina Turner wig works fabulously but isn’t eco-friendly. What should I do? Maya […]

Eight Tips on Writing Great Wedding Vows

“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband / wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.” One single sentence pledging a lifetime of of love and devotion. What could be simpler! Your wedding vows are your promises to each other of how you will comport yourself as a marital partner. The vows are generally composed […]

Strategies for Investing Cash

The stock markets are at all-time highs and don’t appear to be ready to change course any time soon. If you have a rollover from an old 401k or some saved cash, you may be asking yourself if this is the right time to invest that money. You may want to have your money invested right away so that you don’t miss the potential upside of the market or you may want to wait on some or all of your investing for fear that the market may pull back. When clients come to me with cash to invest, I typically […]

What Kind of Manager Are You?

I’ve had occasion to watch managers in action over my career. I think we can all agree that managers display many different styles, from completely hands-off to overly involved, and somewhere in between. What is most interesting for me as an HR practitioner is to monitor the impact the varying styles have on employees. When I say “management style,” I’m referring to the way a manager makes decisions relating to their subordinates. The wrong management style demotivates employees, kills productivity, and causes employees to disengage and leave. One successful management style is known as the “democratic” manager. These managers are […]