Proud of Pride

When you’re raising kids, certain days are memorable. Birthdays, school events, religious holidays, and family vacations. In our house, Pride season is definitely a part of that list. My kids, both young and old, love going to Pride events. Our kids are quick to invite their friends to go along to Pride events because “Mom always goes.” I end up taking the kids in our family, extended family, school family, family friends, and random other people who come along for the fun. The kids have special Pride outfits they wear. Their shirts promote love and their colors are usually rainbow. […]

Who Knows Him Best?

Over the years, I have spent a considerable amount of time dealing with specialists. Doctors, therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, you name it, I’ve been there. However, it never ceases to amaze me how much most professionals push aside the advice of a child’s parent. Last week, I had a meeting with my son’s psychiatric treatment team. He has severe mental illness and has been living in a psychiatric hospital for months after he attacked one of our teenaged daughters with a knife. Our daughter is fine. Our son is not. He continues to struggle with his diagnosis. Medication has not proven […]

The Ups and Downs of Parenting

Sometimes, being a parent is hard.  Trying to keep it together when your child is sick or injured.  Knowing that you would do everything, but really can’t do anything to help.  And then, there’s watching when your child’s heart is broken.  Or, standing by as they take those first big steps of independence.    Yesterday, was a rough day.  Work has been stressful, with multiple overlapping deadlines.  I haven’t had as much time to spend with the kids as I’d like.  Then, one of my adult sons called to curse at me because his day had gone badly.  He’s seriously mentally […]

Off to School?

Most parents remember the first time they sent their little one off to school. They remember going to register their five-year-old for kindergarten or preschool. They picture that little face filled with excitement and worry climbing aboard the school bus or entering the classroom. They remember the little lunch box and backpack. I never had those first memories. My kids arrived either already in school or too young to care. By the time most of my little ones were big enough for school, we’d already established our private school. So, for the most part, all but a few of our […]

Bullies on the Playground

The other day some of my big kids took my little kids to the park. This is one of the benefits of having so many kids. There are kids who can drive, who enjoy taking little kids to the park or the trampoline park or on playdates. Anyway, the kids arrived at the park to find they were the only ones at the playground. It was great for a while. The little kids laughed and played. They ran from swings to slides. The older kids took turns pushing the kids on swings or chatting with each other. A couple of […]

‘Mommy Bye, Always Bye’

It’s been such a long week. It’s been the kind of a week where you start to wonder what stressful thing is going to happen next. So many extra responsibilities piled up. I had a super busy week at work and then, just when I was feeling confident that I had done a great job, I realized that I forgot to get approval from the top corporate executive before sending off my report. She was not happy. And, because of this particular assignment, which came up at the last minute, I’m behind on everything else. The good news is that […]

A Day in the Life

One of the most difficult things for many parents is dealing with the terrible twos. Well, at least that’s the most difficult until hormones hit and the terrible twos is only a blip of a memory. But, that’s an issue for another day. Last time, I talked about taming the toddler. However, after I submitted the article, I realized that one of the main reasons toddlerhood is so frustrating is that adults often forget what it’s like to be two years old. Seriously, what do you really remember about being two? I’m sure it’s very little, if anything at all. […]

How to Tame a Toddler

I’ve raised my fair share of toddlers. In fact, I’m willing to wager that I’ve raised more toddlers than most. Many people dread the tantrums and energy of the toddler stage, but I have to admit that I love it. I love the opinions and the emotions of toddlers, at least for the most part. When Cassandra first started toddling around, she was adorable. (Of course, I think all toddlers are adorable.) She perfected her walking skills and then learned to run. Now, at just over two years of age, she runs, climbs, and walks steps with precision. But, for […]

Expecting Perfection

Twenty-two years ago, when I first became a parent, I was full of ideals. I’d wanted to be a mom for as long as I could remember. I knew I wanted to do my best to be the best mom I could be. I’d always been involved with kids. I’d been a teacher and had worked with youth groups in my church. I was the kid magnet when I went out with my friends. I enjoyed being around kids and was looking forward to being a parent. As family grew, through foster care, adoption, and one additional biological addition, I […]

School Days

So, it’s February, hardly a time to be thinking about the next school year. But, in reality, it’s a time when, if you’re going to make a change, you need to be thinking. Private school rosters can fill quickly. Homeschool paperwork needs to be submitted on a certain schedule. Research needs to be done and decisions need to be made. I’ve run a private school for the last 16 years. And, as a result, I’ve had the conversation with parents about the pros and cons of all schooling situations. So whether you want your kids to go to public, private, […]