Remembering Sunday

The worst part about adulthood is losing people you love, people of your own generation that are supposed to make it senility with you. While these deaths leave massive holes in our lives and our families, they are in the bluntest phrasing possible, part of the natural human lifecycle.  I am talking about the sudden deaths of friends from childhood. Friends lost in the blink of an eye from events that we could not rationalize the how and the why they occurred.  I am thirty-three years old and I have three tattoos on my body for friends that have left […]

Dancing Through Quarantine

I am overdue for a joyous article remarks just about everyone in my circle. I mean considering the fact that the last six months have been nothing but either candid thoughts on where we have erred in our handling of [insert national crisis of choice] or imploring us all to remember our empathy, I can see where they are coming from. If you do not know me personally, I am assuming that you think I am nothing more than a frustrated and beleaguered trans person simply trying to navigate having to work with the public and everything that comes with […]

Are You Surprised?

The first thought that rolled into my brain when I learned that Ted Cruz had fled a Texas that had become Arendelle after Elsa let it go, was “of course he did.” Because, to skip all of the introductory banter, of course he did. Of course, he left his state and his constituents to soak up the Mexican paradise, without the family dog. The dog and the security guard could keep each other warm as they watched the Cruz family drive away towards the airport, without a single empathetic thought amongst them. As the reports continued to air, and were […]

Not an Advocate, Just a Devil

Watching the snow peacefully falling outside of my window this morning was a peaceful respite from the angry and exhausting debating I have been doing via social media for much of the later part of this week. You see, if you have been residing in a communication-free bubble, you might be unaware, but President Biden (love being able to type that name after that title) officially rescinded the very discriminatory practices precluding trans Americans being able to serve both their country and live as their valid and authentic gender. As it is when any minority/marginalized group is thrust into the […]

After the Dust Has Settled

When I was seventeen, I had an experience while white-water rafting. A brush with drowning that left me showering facing away from the stream of water for a solid decade, and an uneasy reality that comes from learning that contrary to what you convince yourself, the horrible things that happen to strangers across the globe, can happen to you in an instant. An eventful fourteen years later, I find myself feeling very similar to how I did when I was plucked from the water, and able to take the first deep breath of just air, after gulping down more river […]

When We Meet Again

I hope that the next time you click on or pick up the publication that the air around all of us has changed. I hope that there is a definitive countdown on the end of our current dystopia, and a hopeful horizon inching towards us as we lean into the winter and January 2021. I hope that the pandemic that continues to inundate every facet of our society has suddenly shifted in trajectory to something we know we will triumph over, because we will soon have leadership that trusts science and rationale, and not literally a single person, thought or […]

I Don’t Forgive You

The closer we get to the election, the more the feelings of anxiety and dread creep into my mind. I remember a similar experience in 2016. While I never really expected the outcome of that fateful Tuesday in November four years ago, the sheer fact that America had not turned its collective back on the platform that supported bully-tactics and insults not appropriate for a playground setting; gave me an uncomfortable gnawing within my soul that a chasm within our societal conscience was opening. The rise of our current political predicament came at a time in my life when I […]

Jumbled Juxtapositions

This week started out with my name change being signed, sealed, delivered back to me and ends with me leaving for a very, very (see the last four months of articles) much needed vacation. Sandwiched between those two wonderful events, is the gut-punch of the death of RBG and the absolute terror, uncertainty and overall dread that means for queer folks, women, and literally every other minority within our country’s borders. I found out Friday evening, and I just slid to the floor behind the desk and sat there staring at the wall for a chunk of time. I am […]

How to Travel Kind During COVID

Last week I had the absolute pleasure of checking in a very important guest. He was not famous, or a leader in his industry, or anyone of any outwardly presenting importance. Honestly, when I first greeted him in the lobby, I was jealous of his lavender polo, and I wondered why I did not own more lavender-colored clothes myself. Side note, I just discovered today what is going to be my fall work wear trend, polo shirts underneath sweaters, and I have a few grey sweaters begging to be paired with light purple. Mr. Important started our interaction quite pleasantly, […]

A Therapeutic List of the Things That Keep Me Up At Night

Even if you lived under the deepest rock within the darkest cave, hidden in an Atlantean-style air pocket under the ocean, you would still be aware of some of the reasons why this year has literally depleted the planet’s stash of good vibes and positive energy. This was supposed to be a year of overdue change, both at the political and social level across the country. Instead of allowing our great republic to continue to slide backwards into a chaotic dystopian nightmare, we were going to have a swell of momentum and pride that would help us correct the course […]