After the Dust Has Settled

When I was seventeen, I had an experience while white-water rafting. A brush with drowning that left me showering facing away from the stream of water for a solid decade, and an uneasy reality that comes from learning that contrary to what you convince yourself, the horrible things that happen to strangers across the globe, can happen to you in an instant. An eventful fourteen years later, I find myself feeling very similar to how I did when I was plucked from the water, and able to take the first deep breath of just air, after gulping down more river […]

Red County Blues

We did it. We survived what has been called the most important election in our nation’s history and it seems the whole country is having a lot of feelings. Some of us are elated; some are devastated. And there are people somewhere in between. We all have our opinions, and we are each entitled to these opinions. It was our opinions that resulted in the last four years and that have decided what the next four years will bring. The big question, though, is how do we move forward in a way that heals deep divisions and unites millions of […]

When We Meet Again

I hope that the next time you click on or pick up the publication that the air around all of us has changed. I hope that there is a definitive countdown on the end of our current dystopia, and a hopeful horizon inching towards us as we lean into the winter and January 2021. I hope that the pandemic that continues to inundate every facet of our society has suddenly shifted in trajectory to something we know we will triumph over, because we will soon have leadership that trusts science and rationale, and not literally a single person, thought or […]

The Haunted House’s History

The house has stood for decades. No one knows when it was built or what happened to its owners, whom haven’t been seen or heard from in our lifetime. Nature has reclaimed the land and house itself. What once was a porch is now a broken, sagging collection of boards. The beams of the roof have rotted, collapsing inwards to the heart of the house. A “No Trespassing” sign hangs on what is left of the front door. Perhaps the sign has served its purpose because there is no graffiti or any sign of vandalism to be found; or, it […]

4th Annual Keystone State Gay Rodeo – Wrap Up

After a fantastic weekend of roping, speed, and camp events, the Keystone State Gay Rodeo Association (KSGRA) celebrated its success of it’s annual rodeo weekend. The 4th Annual Rodeo was held Saturday, October 3 at Red Man Ranch & Arena in New Freedom, PA.    This years rodeo saw new contestants and many new faces in the audience.     On Sunday, October 4, Jackpot Team Penning was held.    At this event, teams of riders on horseback sort cattle to pick out the numbers that they are assigned in 60 seconds and get them “penned” in a three-sided corral at the other end […]

I Don’t Forgive You

The closer we get to the election, the more the feelings of anxiety and dread creep into my mind. I remember a similar experience in 2016. While I never really expected the outcome of that fateful Tuesday in November four years ago, the sheer fact that America had not turned its collective back on the platform that supported bully-tactics and insults not appropriate for a playground setting; gave me an uncomfortable gnawing within my soul that a chasm within our societal conscience was opening. The rise of our current political predicament came at a time in my life when I […]

Is Love supposed to hurt?

According to “Dear Abby”, Love doesn’t hurt. Real love is supposed to make you feel better! How many of you can say that this is true in your case? I hear people telling me that in a relationship, you have to work at it. Why? I don’t understand the concept of working at it. If love is unconditional, then what is there to work at? Is it the compatibility? Is it the forgiveness? Is it the opening of the mind and heart because we are now dealing with another person and his/hers feelings and interests and habits and everything that […]

In Light of Our Loss

The world changes quickly these days. I’m certain that the world will change several times during the days separating the writing of this article and its publication. As of now, it is less than two full days since the passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and our country has entered into a new kind of turmoil. The loss of Ginsburg was felt especially strongly by our community, and we owe her a debt of gratitude for her contributions to gender equality and her notoriously astute dissents of Supreme Court decisions affecting the people of our country. Ginsburg was nothing if not […]

Jumbled Juxtapositions

This week started out with my name change being signed, sealed, delivered back to me and ends with me leaving for a very, very (see the last four months of articles) much needed vacation. Sandwiched between those two wonderful events, is the gut-punch of the death of RBG and the absolute terror, uncertainty and overall dread that means for queer folks, women, and literally every other minority within our country’s borders. I found out Friday evening, and I just slid to the floor behind the desk and sat there staring at the wall for a chunk of time. I am […]

How to Travel Kind During COVID

Last week I had the absolute pleasure of checking in a very important guest. He was not famous, or a leader in his industry, or anyone of any outwardly presenting importance. Honestly, when I first greeted him in the lobby, I was jealous of his lavender polo, and I wondered why I did not own more lavender-colored clothes myself. Side note, I just discovered today what is going to be my fall work wear trend, polo shirts underneath sweaters, and I have a few grey sweaters begging to be paired with light purple. Mr. Important started our interaction quite pleasantly, […]