Ins & Outs Why coming out matters

One of the things I love about our community is that there’s no right or wrong way to be queer; the only criteria for membership is that you identify as LGBTQIA-plus. This itself can be a long and arduous process. We know we belong to the community, but not necessarily where or how. Finding your tribe isn’t always easy, though. When I came out half a lifetime ago, part of me expected to find my tribe immediately. I didn’t. Most of us don’t. Many of us are still looking for our tribe. It takes time, some experimenting, and personal reflection […]

When Bois Love Girls

I’ve been thinking a lot about high school lately. You see, my nephew recently attended his first prom and I was there for the obligatory pre-prom photo extravaganza organized by a group of students from his high school. As the couples took turns posing in their prom finery, the parents in the crowd talked amongst themselves about how much prom has changed. Moms spoke of home-made gowns and dads discussed renting tuxedos from a catalog that had, at best, seven options. I remember the tuxedo I chose for my senior prom. The jacket had tails, something the conductor of a […]