Life Insurance

I’ve always carried a large life insurance policy for the last 20+ years. I think it’s good that my family is taken care of if something happens to me. This morning I had to do an update because my original term was for twenty years. I was apprehensive about how the insurance company will perceive me as a risk. According to Quotacy, life insurance companies’ responses vary to transgender applicants. We recently worked with an applicant who had surgically transitioned from male to female. We completed an underwriting study—which is when we go to the different life insurance companies and […]

Good as Golding: an interview with actor Henry Golding

In a relatively short period of time, actor and straight ally Henry Golding’s star has ascended, making him one of the most recognizable names and faces on film. Beginning with the double whammy of 2018’s Crazy Rich Asians and A Simple Favor, and continuing with 2019’s Last Christmas and The Gentlemen, Golding is a hot commodity. In addition to these high-profile movies, Golding also ventured into the world of independent features with Monsoon (Strand Releasing), written and directed by gay filmmaker Hong Khaou (2014’s Lilting). In Monsoon, Golding plays Kit, a gay man who left Vietnam for the UK with his parents when he was a young boy. He returns, […]

Reflecting on the Election, Preparing for Trans Day of Remembrance

We have made it through a high-stakes, and deeply polarized election season. Even folks who don’t engage in electoral politics much have felt the building tension among our communities. Our President and Vice President elect have been projected and announced, and even though there may be ongoing vote counting process and legal wrangling, change appears to be just around the corner. There were many big wins for representation, most noticeably, a glass ceiling has shattered with the selection, campaign, and victory of Vice President elect, Senator Kamala Harris. Election season also brought exciting wins for LGBTQ candidates nationwide. Delaware elected Sarah McBride as state […]

Love, Pandemic Style

You may have seen the November 19 “The Rachel Maddow Show” on MSNBC where the host had an emotional presentation on her partner’s COVID illness. Since then, especially with the Thanksgiving Holiday, there have been many accounts of how people handle when a partner, spouse or a family member gets infected. The toll it takes when you can’t see or be with those you love when they are in distress is huge, let alone knowing they may be dying with no one to hold their hand. It is an unimaginable time when a partner has a serious or terminal illness, […]

COVID’s Impact on Your Holiday Season

By Michael Young, MD, Service Chief of The Retreat at Sheppard Pratt I’m sorry to be a Grinch, but like everything else this year, COVID may have a big impact on your holiday plans. The holidays should be a festive time, filled with family and friends and parties. As the holiday song says, it’s supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year”! Instead, we’re all making a list and checking it twice about the latest COVID restrictions and number of new cases. Colder weather, the looming flu season, and uncertainty about which of our beloved, festive traditions are […]

What does Suicidal Look Like?

If your mother, father, husband, wife, son, daughter, lover or friend was suicidal could you recognize it? What does suicidal look like? Is it recognizable? Is it a frown? Is it a sad look? In which one of the following pictures am I suicidal? Please pick one. The truth is, it’s all of them, the one most people will say my driving shot #3. While I total remember when I took this shot, I had let my guard down on purpose just for a moment. It was a rare private moment where I was truthful with myself and this was […]

After the Dust Has Settled

When I was seventeen, I had an experience while white-water rafting. A brush with drowning that left me showering facing away from the stream of water for a solid decade, and an uneasy reality that comes from learning that contrary to what you convince yourself, the horrible things that happen to strangers across the globe, can happen to you in an instant. An eventful fourteen years later, I find myself feeling very similar to how I did when I was plucked from the water, and able to take the first deep breath of just air, after gulping down more river […]

Red County Blues

We did it. We survived what has been called the most important election in our nation’s history and it seems the whole country is having a lot of feelings. Some of us are elated; some are devastated. And there are people somewhere in between. We all have our opinions, and we are each entitled to these opinions. It was our opinions that resulted in the last four years and that have decided what the next four years will bring. The big question, though, is how do we move forward in a way that heals deep divisions and unites millions of […]

A King Without A Kingdom

On February 28th I was on vacation in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. It was a beautiful Friday evening and the bars in Wilton Manors, the popular gayborhood, were hopping. I had enjoyed happy hour at Hunter’s and was having dinner at the Garden Café across the street next to the Eagle Wilton Manors, when I saw Mr. DC Eagle 2020 Justin Sawyers walk by the window. I had been to the Mr. and Ms. DC Eagle 2020 Contest in November and had seen Justin at other events since then. After dinner, I was happy to greet him and several other leather […]

We are in the home stretch…we think. What has been the toll?

2020 is almost over and thank God!  We see a light at the end of the tunnel and are hoping it is not the next train barreling toward us as we travel what seems to be an endless tunnel with one crisis after another; COVID, BLM, the election, and a number of other stressors to deal with in our lives as they dramatically change from what we use to consider our “normal” lives.  Our stress reaction has evolved to surge in the moment.  We are presented with a threat, real or imagined does not matter.  Our very fast subconscious reptilian […]